to get a big bag and throw away every single thing that dd1 owns?

[ditavonteesed]

I am so fed up of the bloody mess, all she ever plays is lets pile everything in boxres/bags/suitcases and put it in the lounge, or the garden or anywhere it is not supposed to be and leave it there until mum tidiers it up. books, clothes, everything. doesn't matter how many ti es I try to stop her, also she has almighty paddy about tidying it up, would say well it will go in ther bin but it is usually stuff that she needs not toys. why does she do it?

at spacehopper, I do need to be stricter, going to have to brace myself fr the tantrums.

DD was told that if DH went into her room on a saturday morning and it was tidy she'd get £1.
So we have a weekend ritual now of the inspection and the solemn handing over of £1.
DD is 6.

DD is very motivated by money. She is currently bargaining with the tooth fairy for the price per tooth.

I also do a "lets hand on some things to children less fortunate" and also quietly chuck away tat on a regular basis.

Last year I persuaded her that Father Christmas wouldn't visit unless he could see 2 clear cupboard shelves for her new toys to go on. That worked as well.
Might not work on the older ones.

And on the tantrums thing: any tantrum is ignored, and mysteriously the TV stops working.