to move house cos of neighbours kids

[metmoo]

we have been here a year at first our neighbours were ok but after them borrowing and not returning items we started saying no now we have apples thrown at front door abuse thrown at us when we leave the house leaves chucked all over car fishing wire tied to front door and being woken up at 2 am my son has stones chucked at him he is 15 with adhd and mentally younger have informed police about one lad but now other kids are doing it i have been bullied all my life and have low self esteem im too nervous to confront the parents i work full time as a carer and under a lot of stress the housing officer sent a incident diary but wont do anything in immediate future and as we have a swap lined up its doubtful anything will be done. we have our inspection today for the swap but already the housing officer is an hour late mentally i find it hard to cope and the kids barely go out advice please

I dont think YABU at all in wanting to move away from these neighbours. But I do not think it is fair you should have to go through all the stress and hassle of moving again so soon because of the way this family are acting.

YANBU and moving is the only way - I moved for this reason alone, and we were further from work and schools but I never regretted it.
The peace and quiet, sitting in the garden the next day ( with nothing unpacked) with no harassment, it is wonderful.
Better luck in your next home.

thanks housing officer was due this morning rang housing and they have no record and say it may be next week apparently shes on hols then though they are useless and have our lives in their hands i just got mothers email address off homeswapper and sent polite note saying leave us alone not sure if i did right thing my hands are shaking and head going round in circles so wound up but not sure which way to go

YANBU

I love my flat and would live here for as long as we needed if we could but the bastard people upstairs are making life totally miserable with their banging 24/7 waking my ds up every single night since we moved in.

We've complained twice and still it's going on!

Unfortunately we're not eligible for a swap until April so have to put up with it until then!

I really do hope the family we swap with are either worse than them or have enough balls to go up there and tell them exactly what for!

Good luck for the future.

I swapped with deaf people - yes, really they were.
I had massive harassment from feral under 10s and alky fathers. They had it in for me because I worked at their school, though not actually with them.
I found social landlord could not be less interested. I had photos of kids swinging on my washing line etc; they had climbed a 6 ft wall to get in. My neighbours called the police when I was away as they saw them trying to break in. I had hundreds of events recorded, but no one wanted to know.
Moving is the only way.
I am sorry you are so stressed, it took me years to stop shaking at the bang of a football or knock at the door.

last night the one i emailed came over with the kids that are doing this saying prove it etc my kids havent done anything thought it was a joke the kids were having a go being vile the woman just smirking next thing another mum came over(mother of the gobby one and also a traveller) saYING IF WE INVOLVE POLICE THINGS WILL GET WORSE mother of the other lad we had trouble with came over after but she was great saying if we have problems with her lad she will sort it rang woman im swapping with and she said i can start taking stuff down to new house and store in garage cannot wait to get out of here now guess we are lucky we are getting out of a road with these uncivilised people

metmoo - does this other woman know what she is moving into??? She sounds nice, too nice to move into this mess??

Good for you (I think, your last post was virtually unpunctuated). Neighbours can make your life hell. The cunt who lived upstairs to us really did affect our day to day life. I think if we'd stayed longer my mental health would have suffered. We now have really nice neighbours on one side and slightly odd and emotional ones on the other (plus the many cats). We are much happier

YANBU....bad neighbours make life hell. I am also living it with neighbours that are noisy from 6 am til 1am with all kinds of electrical devices,ongoing house renovations that start at 6am in the morning with deliveries of bricks,metal and everything that is noisy.I sympathise

GET A PELLET GUN, USE IT.

We moved from our last house because of the neighbours. The son would have his friends round at all hours of the day and they would hang around the front of their house chatting away at all hours of the night. They would empty their bins into the street! One weekend they put up a huge gazebo in their tiny garden and had a wedding there. There must have been about 50 people staying in their 3 bedroom house. It lasted all weekend and we just moved out and stayed with my pil.
It all came to a nasty end because one evening the son's friends pulled up in a car and honked their horn about 100 times. At the time my dd was about 5 weeks old and we were trying to get her to sleep and were both a bit sleep deprived. My dh went outside and told them to 'f off'. An hour later they came back and did the same thing again. My dh went outside and then was jumped by about 4 people. One had a baseball bat and hit him on the back of the head. Luckily dh is a big guy and managed to shrug them off and run into the house. However the lads tried to follow him into our house and dh was pushing the door close. He still has nightmares about his socks slipping on the wooden floor.
I was then confronted with my dh with blood pouring off his head whilst I was stood there holding our dd. It was horrendous I was told not to go to A&E with my dd as it would be full of drunk people and had to wake up my pil to go with him. Luckily my dh didn't have permanent damage although it shook him up a lot. He went from being a confident person to one who was scared of groups of lads even if they weren't being threatening. In the end I went round to the neighbours and told them that if I ever saw his friends near my house again I would call the police. Dh was worried that if we involved the police and made an official complaint they would try and hurt me and dd.
After a few months we sold the house. On the day of completion my dh cried with relief.
We have now moved to a lovely house with lovely friendly neighbours and won't move again in a hurry!
So I completely sympathise about nightmare neighbours.

god that is bad glad you are safe my neighbours target us as my son has adhd and they enjoy him "going off on one" gives them a cheap thrill they also resent the fact the girl i swapped with was their best mate as they had parties etc weekly the lady im swapping with has grown up kids and wants loud so she put it and wants out of where she lives as too quiet as for pellet guns im a carer and need a clear record so would not want a police record OR retaliation from the scumbags opposite i feel for anyone who suffers this harrassment

I am sorry that these people have targetted your son. They are such cowards aren't they?
We didn't want to make anything too official because we didn't want to have to declare a 'dispute with neighbours' on the property as we wanted to sell it.
The sad thing is that if you go down official channels it's you that gets stuck with the problem as you can't sell your house.
I do feel for you.
My dh and I were probably a bit naive before all of this. We had never encountered violence before having lived a 'charmed life'. I do feel for people that have to endure this type of treatment day in day out.

Giving you a [[hug]

Metmoo - we'll I guess the woman will be getting what she wants and hopefully you will too! Have you seen the house??

Folly - that is awful about your DH, has he made a good recovery (emotionally) since you moved??

YANBU, and this is where 'caveat emptor' applies as far as I'm concerned.

I've sold houses with appalling neighbours and kept my gob tight shut on the subject when selling. If you need to sell then you need to sell, look after yourself - the person who moves in next isn't your problem.

I've sold my way out of a shite neighbourhood too. Took a hit financially to do it too. Neighbours on both sides were hideous. We now live in the country with noone attached. I thank my lucky stars every day for that.

sometimes im glad we dont own a house as it is easier too swap from a rented ha home, but it sometimes leads you to live in more undesirable homes. we have lived in some lovely places though in the past, and hopefully where we are going will be a 100 per cent better than here, the kids have gone back to school so its getting quieter and the nights are drawing in, when it rains im happy cos they stay in. the ironic thing is we are moving in a few weeks and its possible that they are being offered new builds in another part of town. they drive us out of our home and get rewarded for it. but we are happy to be going xx

YANBU.

We rent, too.

And tbh, even if we could just barely afford to buy anything, we can't, though, I wound never unless we could be a detached far out.

I've moved and have my life fucked over by lousy neighbours so many times I've lost count!

The last two neighbours downstairs from us got murdered and OD'd, respectively. That was the only relief we got!

I'm so sick of how feral and ghetto people are allowed to act in this country I'm considering leaving.

Morris, if you're selling and have neighbour issues, aren't you required to disclose?

I don't know for sure, because again, we're renters for life, but I thought I'd read that somewhere.

metmoo I hope you are much happier soon. I moved to get away from lowlife families but it is worth the effort. It was hard as we were much further from schools and jobs but my life changed so much for the better.
Post again soon and let us know how it is going; I think a weight will come off you.

I have told my housing officer that I want a place in the middle of a field, with one shop nearby for essentials, and definitely no neighbours. I don't care if it's falling down and delapidated.

I'm HA, semi-detached, massive wrap-around garden, nice house, huge rooms, 5 minutes from all major supermarkets, bus station, library, cinema.
I so fucking hate it here and now I'm having panic attacks and on Citalopram.
I hope some of the tossers where I live are reading my post.

Every morning, I have to go outside and pick up used condoms, rubbish, take-away cartons, drinks cans, glass from my front garden.
My 11 year old grandson is home educated so we wouldn't have to worry about schools.
So, who has got a caravan we can move into and have a quiet life?
We're on an exchange list and have been for months. Loads of people want my place, but where they are is as bad as where we are.

I'd rather pick up stuff than put up with constant noise, blaring music, drunken arguments, no garden space at all, non-insulated, wood floor flat full of damp.

But we're going back to private rentals so we can get out to the middle of nowhere.

Oh, we get that too, expat, including neighbours performing oral sex in their gardens!

It's the life, isn't it, Marjorie.

I'm so cross on your behalf!

If I win EuroMillions I'm going to buy a bunch of houses adn rent them to decent people who need a nice place to live long-term at affordable rents.

they were all out there last night shouting banging on our door chucking apples at windows etc. we completely ignored them. and in the end they gave up, probably pissed off as we never responded bet they feel unsatisfied

Metmoo - Have you explained to the family who may be swapping with yiou exactly why you are moving. It's not fair to let people move into such an awful situation, and if you showed anyone this thread or tell them what you have told us I can't see how anyone would want to move into your house.

YANBU to be upset and want to move though, you just need to be fair to the new residents.