To think my FIL is a moron?

[Hazeleyedbaby]

My FIL is really getting on my nerves I have never in my life met a man who is so selfish/ignorant - Here are some examples....

His world revolves around getting home in time for Emmerdale/Coronation Street no matter where he is or whose company he is in, he will even be rude if he is getting stressed about missing an episode (I hate soap operas so cannot understand this one bit).

I bought a beautiful green jacket for DS and he had a fit saying he couldn't wear it if he was coming to see him (he is a staunch Rangers supporter) - Pathetic!

He always moans about the catholic church goers parking on double yellow lines (I keep pointing out to him that the protestants do the same in our town).

He belittles unmarried mothers (I gave birth to his grandchild and I am not married to his son)

He is will phone his son etc in a panic for someone to get his papers for him if he cannot be bothered to get them himself (he lives 5 mins from shop) and when he goes on holiday we have to buy him the Sun every day he is away- the man is computer literate and can check news online! grrr

Rant over but AIBU to think he is a moron???

he is just a self absorbed twat. i love telling people like that what i think of them. i did it to EXp's dad when he told me to get out of his house the night i told him i was pregnant. he hated me from that point onwards. i revelled in his hatred of me.

Buy your son a Celtic top and get him to wear it next time you visit FIL!

What an odd man. Does he really think he can tell you how to dress your child? What's he going to do if DS wears the green jacket, bar the doorway?

send him an anonymous letter saying emmerdale has been cancelled... forever.

sounds like he has aspergers.

I fully intend to ignore his ignorance and DS will be wearing his lovely coat to go to his grandparents house as he would my parents, park etc

LOL at Emmerdale being cancelled

YABU

I realise you are just venting, but this is your son's grandfather - cut him some slack

Surely they can run out of the Sun when you shop for him?
Buy the Guardian for him instead.

He reads the Sun every day! YANBU he is a moron

Buy him a green sweater for Christmas.
And a DVR so he can record his program is out.

He can watch the soaps on the internet; he sounds a right tool.

I agree with with Belle. My dad is a lot like this (with a few exceptions in specifics, and he wouldn't say the single mother thing), and he is the most kind-heartest lovely man you could meet. He also collects things compulsively and is extremely rigid about stuff.

OMG Belle - I have just read the symptoms etc of aspergers and I agree that this sounds highly likely, particularly the physical clumsiness - he is always knocking things over and tripping up. He also talks very loudly and talks over the top of people, tells the same stories all the time and tells very long winded stories when you are in a rush and does not pick up on the need for the listener to leave!

Now I have a huge dilemma do I ever mention this to his son???

I'm sure it's worth mentioning to your OH. At least if there's a reason behind his behaviour it will help you both understand it a bit more.

I'd still let my son wear the green jacket, though.

He sounds like a pita but he doesn't sound that bad. Ignore him. I think your description of him being a moron is a bit ott. At the end of the day the stuff he is moaning about is trivial. If you don't want to buy a paper when he is away, just don't buy it, what is the big deal! He can get it delivered if he is that desperate.

I would say being so obbessive over what alot of people would see as relatively unimportant things (eg cant be late for emerdale, must have newspaper everyday...etc) and the social oddities of his behaviour Could be a sign of aspergers, or a similar problem.

however I would also say he may just be set in his ways as well. Could always be worth it being looked into though. If he has an undiagnosed condition, finding out about it may mean some support can be put in place and the situation will be better for all involved.

I'd mention it. Alot of people, especially the elderly, fall under the radar. Diagnosing SN has imroved alot for children, adult diagnosis is not so good. I would be patient, it sounds like he really needs the routine. Then again, he may just be a PITA.