for others to maybe think I might have an opinion? grr!

[Dandydog]

Big whinge, 5m pregnant and sick to eye teeth of a few close family members constantly telling me what they think - what we should do, when they think the baby will come ('early' apparently - how the hell do they know?!); it's driving me mad. Pearls so far:

• you should by EVERYTHING from carboot sales - from someone whose just spent 50k on a wedding!! If I want to splash out on first born I bloody well shall!!
• promises to be second birth partner (then booked a holiday on due-date, with excuse that they think baby will come early)

Agghh!!! Ive been biting my tongue to date; maybe that's the problem I should say something? The problem is I am so gobsmacked with comments at the time it takes a while to take it in... Am I the only one putting up with this endless drivel?! It's just so thoughtless.

If you want others to realise you have an opinion, then you will have to speak up.

I think well meaning advice is something every pregnant women has to endure!

Wait until you start choosing names, everyone will have an opinion as to whether they do or dont like it!

You will want to scream, i dont care what you think!

Unfortunately this is only the beginning .

why on earth are you biting your tongue?

Tell them. Speak up.

You have so many options

from the outright rude "If I want your advice I will ask you for it." and "Thanks for your unsolicited opinion but I'll do things my way"

to the more tactful "Thank you for you input, I'll take that into consideration when I make my decision."

and for the 'I think you'll be early type coments there's "Oh [blank face]" or Do you? [blank face]

As for baby arriving early, perhaps you should reply "no, we didnt have sex on that date" that should shut them up.

How about -

nod, smile and ignore

or

we'll see
(a favourite of my mum when I was a kid!).

Revenge will be yours shortly, you can tell them all your birth story, sore nipples, sleepless nights and bore them all to tears!

Hi thanks - I have already said, 'no that's not really fir us, blah, blah' but bitten my tongue at saying something far ruder when my opinion was pooh poohed back. Did not explain in first post very well! I guess it's just part of the territory though (& could be a lit worse tbh)
Haha good tips though, thx all x

being pg makes you public property and invites comment.unfortunately.smile and wave.smile and wave

Yanbu. Get a replacement for 2nd birth partner, in case you do not deliver early. (regardless of df's mighty prediction)

Opinions are like Arseholes.....Everybody has one

But some are more full of shit than others!

exactly