to be very angry that my DH let the children paint in the living room and make a blooming mess

[MimiSam]

I am far from houseproud, but I don't let the children (7 and 3) do really messy stuff in the living room. The 3 year old is a minx and loves to splash, pour stuff out and generally make a mess. DH knows I didn't want them to have the paint in the living room (told him distinctly), but he let them do it today and, surprise surprise, the 3 year old has splashed green paint over the walls. I got angry (with him, not them, they were in bed by the time I saw it), then was accused of blowing it out of all proportion.
He's cleaned it off as best he can and, to be honest, it doesn't look too bad now (can still see it a bit though), but it's the fact that he let them do it, knowing I didn't want it to happen, that really annoys me. AIBU?

YABU. He's cleaned it up and as you say, you can hardly see it now. Children will make mess. It's in their contracts.

When I first read your title, I was going to say Get him to clean it up. But he's already done that, so I'd just let it lie. Not worth getting so .

YABU.

It's presumably his house too, and he's cleaned it up, and at least he's doing stuff with them.

It drives me bonkers that DP will always choose the days when I have all the washing nearly dried on the line to have a water fight with DS. By the time the super soakers, the water balloons and the bloody hozelock spray head have been out for ten minutes the washing's always soaked.

But you know, they're having fun. I gave up any hope of a show home when I had a child.

Shiny, I think OP is more annoyed that he undermined her.

I would be annoyed OP. If you have house rules, everyone should stick to them and the kids shouldn't be able to go to Daddy for permission to do something they're not usually allowed to do.

Skyrg, it sounds to me like this isn't a "house rule", it's just something the OP has imposed on her DH.

Now, if he got them to paint in the living room so he could watch the football at the same time or something, that would be U.