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To think you should use your drive if you have one?

21 replies

RandomWomble · 29/08/2010 17:36

I am so annoyed at our next door neighbours constantly parking outside our house whilst their drive ( with spcae for 3 cars) is empty.

The parking is hellish round here and we are often being left having to park up to 2 roads away!

Our DD is autistic, and doesn't walk very much at all and has no sense of danger, she is seven now and getting V hard to carry. The nieghbours are fully aware of this.

I know the answer is to get a drive put in ourselves, and it is on the list. We only moved here two months ago so have a lot to do.

AIBU to think they are being very inconsiderate and a bit rude?

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1234ThumbWar · 29/08/2010 17:38

why not ask them if you can rent a space on their drive as it causes you so many problems. That way they'll have a greater understanding of your issues, if they're nice people they'll help.

Mishy1234 · 29/08/2010 17:39

YANBU.

If you were my neighbour and I was aware of your circumstances, I would certainly make sure you were able to park outside your house. Unfortunately, there are many who would disagree and say YABU as it's a public highway. Personally, I would rather be sure I was doing all I could to help my neighbour keep their child safe.

Have you talked to them about it?

Northernlurker · 29/08/2010 17:39

If their drive is empty ask them if you can use it. Maybe they don't like reversing or are anxious about driving out but would be happy to help you?

Goblinchild · 29/08/2010 17:40

Have you explained to them how you feel and why?
Our neighbours have a van, two cars and several motorbikes, next door has three cars. When we first moved in, over the week, they all came round at different times to say if their excessive ownership ever caused us problems with parking, just say and they'd move things.
Go and explain, they might not even be aware of how selfish they are.

Tippychoocks · 29/08/2010 17:41

No, I hate this too. In my more fraught moments of trying to manage buggies and smalls around parked cars, I have often ranted under my breath about compulsory drives or making people who have a few metres of scrubby unused front garden turn it into a parking space. But that is a little mental.
So in comparison, you're NBU at all!

mumblechum · 29/08/2010 17:50

Renting their drive does sound like an excellent idea.

MrsReality · 29/08/2010 17:52

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exexpat · 29/08/2010 17:59

Could be worth contacting your council about possibly getting a disabled space marked outside your house - I'm not sure if you need to have a blue badge for this or not, but a family I know living near me (also nightmare area for parking) with a SN daughter have a space outside their house. Their daughter can walk, but has a range of issues that would make it difficult for them to park far away from the house.

bottyburpthebarbarian · 29/08/2010 18:00

This drives me NUTS and I don't have any of the issues that you do.

The couple across the road from me have 4 cars and park one right behind my drive.

Add to this the wee girl from round the corner parking her car half up on the pavement in front of my house and it is really difficult to either reverse in or out.

No solution I'm afraid.

But AARRGGHH for you.

alicet · 29/08/2010 18:06

YANBU.

But in all honesty if you have to park up to 2 streets away rather than just over the road this isn't about your neighbour is it? Someone else would park outside your house if it wasn't them.

I would have a word and ask if you could rent space on their drive until you get yours put in as you have noticed that they don't seem to use it much.

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RandomWomble · 29/08/2010 18:06

Hi all,

Thank you for your replies, at least I feel a bit less like a bitch for feeling a bit arsy about it.

We have spoken to them twice, and both times they have been nice as pie saying of course we wouldn't want to make things hard for you etc...They did say they wouldnt park if they had space on their drive.

We told them if their drive is full we can understand but when the drive is empty etc...

The council told us we need a blue badge to hhave a disabled spot put out front, and it is very hard to get them for non physical disabilities from our council.

We are hoping to get a drive in by the new year if we really go frugal for a bit. Luckily by OH and his brother can do the drive so its just materials and getting the kurb dropped.

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RandomWomble · 29/08/2010 18:17

Should of said that they are still doing it depsite saying they wouldn't. Not sure if this is making me more humpy. I am very much a person who only says something if I intend to do it. If I wont then i dont say i will.

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RandomWomble · 29/08/2010 18:20

aliect...it is true that someone else may park there, but generally they dont. Most of the roads here are all dropped kurb drives, our house is one of only a handfull that are not. We dont get many people patk here for other reasons. Lots of visitors to people often park on the other roads too. Generally its only them. Just a little consideration would feel nice.

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RandomWomble · 29/08/2010 18:55

Right one more from me lol

Just thinking about what people have said about asking to rent a spot on their drive. i dont think this would work as they move their cars into it late evening for the night and we cant leave DD alone at all so could only move the car if we are both in. But We have got quite friendly with an old boy a few doors down. I know he doesn't use his drive so I might ask him if we could come to arrangement for a weekly fee to use his when we cant get outside our house. he is a lovely chap and has a grandson with ADHD and is very kind to us regarding our DD.

Thank you all, I dont think i would have thought about that myslef. I hope he would be willing to make an arrangment just for the short term.

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ooosabeauta · 29/08/2010 19:02

Just to say YANBU, that sounds really irritating! We have a similar problem but not to your extent, and it has driven me crackers at times. I do think it's a bit unreasonable for you to have to fork out money renting someone else's drive though, simply because they're not being considerate.

lillybloom · 29/08/2010 21:08

random- Contact the autism society re blue badge. I know its difficult to get them with an non physical disability but they are very good at wording the forms to show the phystical difficulties of ASD. I know a couple od "able bodied" children on the spectrum who gained a blue badge due to their sensory difficulties.

TitsalinaBumSquash · 29/08/2010 21:15

YANBU, the road i live down is a fuking nightmare for parking, everyone on the oppisite side from me have double driveways and about 2 people use them, the rest of them park on the road, this means that when the selfish twt next door parks his 3 cars in the parking bays outside my flat i cant even park oppisite becuase they all have thier cars on the road, which means not only do i have a set of steep stairs to contend with (with 2 young kids (1 disabled), shopping, school bags ect) i also have to walk quite far to get to my actual hole of a flat and im bloody disabled!

RAAAAH!

Edinburghlass · 29/08/2010 21:26

Good luck trying for a disabled badge. That could be a solution. I think you may need planning permission to create a driveway,as you are removing parking spaces from a public highway. I might be wrong on that, but suggest you check before you start creating a driveway for your house.

rainbowsky · 29/08/2010 21:57

We have a blue badge and disabled parking bay outside our house for ds who has asd and severe learing difficuties.

When we applied for the bay one of the criteria to get one was that there was no space in the property to create a driveway.
It was also quite a long winded process to get the bay, they have to advertise it in the local press, a bit like planning permission I suppose.

If you are planning to create a driveway anyway it may be easier to just do this.

Would you be able to apply to the local authority for a disabled facilites grant to do the drive, may be worth asking.

I feel your pain though, it was a bloody nightmare here to get parking before the bay.
Good luck

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RandomWomble · 29/08/2010 22:53

Thank you all.

I think I will contact NAS re the blue badge.

I have called the council about getting a drive, they just said when I am ready ring them and they will send out their highway agency men to quote me for kurb, as i have to have it done by them, and they check all planning etc so hopefully that will be fine fingers crossed.

I am not really clued up about the disabled facilities grants, but might look into them if things go wrong and we cant fund it ourselves.

thank you everyone for your help, I am very greatfull for it.

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cumfy · 30/08/2010 00:22

Can you just get permission from this old guy to park across the bottom of his driveway ?

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