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Original poster

to write my dh this note...

55 replies

Tortington · 28/08/2010 00:20

dear dh
i should not have to sleep on the settee in my own home every friday niht becuase you pass out drunk.

you can choose from the following options

a) move puter out of bedroom [pass out in another room]
b)move into another bedroom
c) move out
d) stop drinking

i am not a piece of shit to be walked over, and sorry wont cut it again.

the question is academic as i have already written and left the note.

great guy 6 days a week. 1 day a week total tosser. every saturday - EVERY sat. he says sorry and promises me i can sleep in my own bed.

i can't sleep ont he settee - and to make matters worse my asthma has been bad this week - had to go for a chest x ray and i have had shit all sleep all week - its really unthoughtful - even more so than usual.

im not gonna leave him, but i might lick him in the knob

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Original poster
Tortington · 28/08/2010 01:12

yeah he is 6 days a week - its one day a week he is a knobber

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amberleaf · 28/08/2010 01:13

Go and draw a moustache....a big swirly one on his face-with a sharpie permanent marker Grin

KickArseQueen · 28/08/2010 01:15

Put crisps in his socks and then put his socks and shoes back on and fill his pants with chipolata sausages Grin Happened to a friend of mine once - still makes me cry laughing just thinking about it Grin

Claw3 · 28/08/2010 01:22

Thats what you should do, think of nasty shit to do everytime he gets drunk and passes out, he might get the message. Even if he doesnt at least its cheered you up a bit!

Hope you feel better soon and get some kip.

AmpleBosom · 28/08/2010 01:30

When my DH passed out drunk one night i thought i'll teach him and waxed the back of his leg. Bastard didn't even flinch Angry

YANBU Grin

KickArseQueen · 28/08/2010 01:35

I stuck very long fake nails on mine once Grin to say he freaked when he woke up was an understatement!

Quattrocento · 28/08/2010 01:43

Your subconscious clearly wants to give your DH a blowjob. It might work as an alternative strategy. Follow your subconscious. Go for it

gomummy · 28/08/2010 01:50

PMSL at some of the suggestions on this thread! Grin

But YANBU Custardo, and lots of sympathy! (For both DH's behaviour and the unfortunate freudian typo).

AddictedToRadley · 28/08/2010 02:51

Sorry nothing to add but loving the typo! Maybe you could offer him the 'lick' if he stops drinking - may well work?!?!

KickArseQueen love the idea of crisps in socks and shoes. I think I may start a thread in chat - what's the funniest/worst thing you've done to someone who's passed out drunk? Grin

Heracles · 28/08/2010 03:57

Why does he drink to unconsciousness every friday?

MNTotoro · 28/08/2010 04:07

YANBU to write the note. And Grin at typo.

Asthma can be terrible and lack of sleep will probably make it worse so I hope you are resting now.

Does your DH go out with his mates every Sat? Is there any way he would change to fortnightly? Or vary the routine and go to cinema rather than pub? If he refused any alternative I'd be a bit worried about his dependence on it, even if it is only one night a week tbh.

Hope you get things sorted. How do you think he will react to the note?

proudnsad · 28/08/2010 09:03

Hmmm well my dh drinks a lot (but doesn't pass out). Goes out every Fri and is steaming when he gets home. It irritates me but it's not really a deal breaker.

If he's a good 'un for 90% of the time, I'd say you were doing pretty well...?

Is he totally useless all day Saturday, every Saturday? Why do you sleep on the sofa?

The typo was beyond genius.

KickArseQueen · 28/08/2010 13:12

Addicted, go for it Grin

Original poster
Tortington · 28/08/2010 17:53

heracles - becuase hes a nobber

proudnsad - hes fine the next day no problems.

MNTotoro - his reaction to the note was - he said that he will use the laptop downstairs from now on and i use the desktop in the bedroom.

hopefully in the long term, ds is going away to live in at college (fingers crossed) and dh can then pass out in the loft room

quatro - im not knob licking - hell no!

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Emo76 · 28/08/2010 18:10

why do you have to sleep on the sofa and , if I am reading the abbreviations correctly, what is he doing on the computer whilst he is so drunk?

I think your note is pretty tame considering.....!

Original poster
Tortington · 28/08/2010 19:15

he plays some game or other - and my op is exactly that - why should i have to go on the fekking sofa? i wont sleep with passed out pissed up fat snoring snorting farting nobber and have made this clear. our agreement is supposed to be i get the bed

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BoneyBackJefferson · 28/08/2010 19:44

just move the PC. end of problem.

missedith01 · 28/08/2010 20:10

Is this right? He comes to the bedroom drunk and plays games and snores and that keeps you awake?

Have you tried putting a bolt on the door? I'd do that and leave his jimjams on the floor outside (as it were) so he gets the message. And if he woke me up trying to get past the bolt I'd have one on the front door the next week.

MNTotoro · 28/08/2010 20:19

I suppose that's better than nothing custy.

Does he HAVE to get rat-arsed EVERY week though?

Original poster
Tortington · 28/08/2010 23:20

no. the puter is in the bedroom - i am downs tairs. so he games upstairs - passes out on the bed.

yes he absolutley has to get drunk every friday.

moving the computer is an option, although we haven't got an ethernet cable ( or sommat) long enough to make this happen at the moment and we are skint. but it is a viable option for the future.

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moondog · 28/08/2010 23:24

How can he type pissed?
Mine to pot after 2 glasses of wine.

Why does he get shitfaced every week?
Could deal with it occasionally but this seems a bit off to put it mildly.
Do your kids see him like this?

LordPanofthePeaks · 28/08/2010 23:27

Leave him. He has no respect for you.

KickArseQueen · 28/08/2010 23:42

Custardo, take the fuses out of all the plugs on the computer, monitor etc.

Hide the screwdrivers and any spare fuses and if you are on a wifi laptop get thee into bed before he gets up there.

chipmonkey · 29/08/2010 00:21

Custy, you are too good for him.

Bolt on door is the best option.

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