To think that three is not a lot of children and that I do not have my hands full!

[Northernlurker]

We are away on hols and went to a local castle today. Whilst sitting in the tea shop we were approached by a older lady doing some market research for the castle owners. We answered her questions but aibu to be a bit miffed that her opening gambit was ' Oooh you've got your hands full' - indicating my three girls. They ae 12, 9 and 3 and were sitting being perfectly well behaved eating chocolate brownies and discussing the liklihood of us seeing dolphins in the sea. Hardly running amok!

This is beginning to annoy me tbh - whenever I tell people I have three dcs they wince. I find them relatively little trouble - certainly not wince worthy.

AIBU?

YABU- what do you want- total silence? what would you like people to say? Do you want people not to acknowledge or notice your children? I just think everyone's getting so uptight these days! This is a harmless old lady syaing something sympathetic. She was not saying "what a trio of uncontrollable brats, you must be knackered". YABU and very over sensitive.

I have 2 DSs, one of whom is like a non stop whirling dervish. I don't mind what people say about them , they always mean well and its nice they show an interest.

I think most people with children (any number of) feel that they have their hands full at some point or another. It is small talk but it's also trying to be empathetic. I quite like it. I really do have my hands full with my lively, full on toddler and recently mobile baby. A bit of empathy is great :)

I have 1 ds and I am always getting the ' you've got a handful there' comment.
I never get chance to reply as I am usually tearing after him.
Different day, different comment, when he is being an angel 'Is he always so well behaved?'
I certainly don't get miffed or annoyed at all though, it's just conversation.
So yabu

YABU. Would you rather people didn't speak to you at all?

yabu extremely over-sensitive.

That is just an example of chat, people are trying to make a nice comment. Mellow out, man.

12, 9, and 3 sounds like you should be getting comments on how the older ones "must be a great help", when in fact they may be stroppy moody nearly-teenagers and want as much to do with a little one as you did when you were a stroppy moody teenager.

Its just a saying I had 3, 4 and under and ds who has sn was a handful on his own [still is at 16]

Everyone's got a f*ing opinion when you have kids, 2 weeks after my 1st baby was born I was already being asked if we were going to have more, when I said I wasn't sure I was met with horrified looks and told things like "one child isn't a family" and other charming sentiments.

Now finally we are having a 2nd, because we feel ready to and I'm now being told I don't know how easy it is just havig one, you just wait, you think you're tired now etc etc

People just love to pass opinion and it seems that people seem they are somewhat more entitled to when it comes to kids and anything kid related.

Ahhhh always good to have a rant on a Sat morning

i keep on telling DH that 3 is, in fact, not that many...and 2 is barely reproduction...

though i do rather have my hands full.

but isn't three now termed a 'large' family?

I have 2, but people only ever say it to me when I just have DS (3) with me.
But that is because they really want to say " he's a rowdy little sod isn't he?!"

YANBU, and I am jealous that you do not have yor hands full

you should meet 2 of the families my dd's went to school with one has 7 kids another has 6 now thats a full time job but the parents with 6 both work dad during the day and mum evenings.

Or even your.