to disbelieve this freecycler?

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I posted a box of headphones and imitation ipod covers, stated good for car booters. First reply aske me to deliver them, as he's disabled and housebound AIBU to doubt that? What is a housebound person going to do with 300 ipod covers?

And even if he is disabled and housebound, AIBU not to offer them to him because I don't want to deliver?

Maybe he was thinking he might sell them on eBay? YANBU not to let him have them though, it's entirely up to you who they go to, for whatever reason.

There's no reason to give freecycling stuff to the first responder (though I often do) If you don't want to there's no reason to... and to be honest if it's not convenient for you then I'd certainly not do it -unless he ends up being the only responder.

YANBU to not deliver.

I have delivered in the past, but it was no skin off my nose. (And the recipient didn't drive, but had offered to collect on a day she could have a lift))

If he's disabled and housebound, he won't be able to ebay them...

I'm fed up of Freecycle sob stories.

A disabled house bound person could have someone post them for him if he eBayed them. Its unreasonable to muse why someone in that situation wouldn't need them and therefore is lying as you dont know the situation. Why not give the benefit of the doubt?

However, it is not unreasonable to not want to deliver.

If you don't want to deliver, wait and see if you get another request. If you don't get another person wanting them then you have to choose to either deliver or to keep hold of them.

I wish people wouldn't spin stories on freecycle, true or otherwise. Just say 'I would like them please, here is my phone number, I will do whatever is convenient for you, thank you'.

Suggest the person get a friend to pick them up?

Or did you advertise a delivery service?

If it's not local/convenient, I would say so.

or pay postage?

Tell him you can't drive.

FWIW if he wants them to Ebay then he is running a business and should pay for the postage out of any future profits. Being a wheelchair user doesn't come into it.

The reason I freecycle is to make my life easier so I don't have to do a car boot/go to the charity shop etc etc. So I wouldn't want to deliver either. Although I have met someone halfway etc if it isn't out of my way. I also wouldn't want to post something, faffing aronud at the post office is not how I want to spend my time to do a stranger a favour. Selfish I know!

Note to self, stop using etc so often. etc, etc.

Well I am being sceptical I know. I have had lots of replies, we had shitloads of the things and freecycled several boxes a while ago, kept one in case we ever got round to doing a car boot. I knew there would be lots of interest so I picked the nicest request. But no, I'm moving house and am already haring over town collecting freecycle requests for boxes and suitcases etc, I don't need this! But I concede IABU to doubt him...

The box could well be worth £250 to a proper car booter, if they unloaded these headphones etc for a quid a pop, it's not just junk!

I certainly wouldn't deliver. And after the number of people I have had not turning up I wouldn't be arranging to meet them somewhere either.

I woudl reply saying if he can get someone to collect then fine but you cannot deliver.