I am fuming, need to off load, and someone tell me that they would feel the same

[thatsnotmymonkey]

Right, I live in the deepest countryside of Devon and 2 of my good friends from Bristol are coming for the weekend.

Some background-
There are 2 couples that live in the countryside, me and DH and our good mates, Betty and BOb. Betty and BOb are also great friends of the 2 friends coming from Bristol. They are going to stay with Betty and Bob. No big deal, sometimes they stay with us, sometimes with Bob and Betty. Thing is this; Betty and Bob already have a house guest and so they are pushed for room. The Bristol mates have not asked to stay with us instead. One of them is my DS godson- I am hurt. I have called them both to ask them what sort of time they would be coming, what shall we do. Left msg. Neither have returned my call. I am hurt about this too and think it is rude. On FB there was a chat from the 2 from Bristol about travel plans, I joined and said, do either of you need to stay here, they said no, but they "would still see us right??" I am really fucked off as neither of them have called me to say that they are coming, neither of them have returned my call, and their is an assumption on their part that we will just be there hanging about waiting to see them.
I feel like a spare part and I think they have been rude. I have already called, so not doing that again. Will see them on Sunday at a garden party Bob and Betty have organised, but I have a good mind to make myself and family unavailable for the weekend. I feel so taken for granted and I am especially angry as the godfather is a really good friend of ours. I expected more of him.
AIBU to tell the godfather he has been rude?
What would you do in this situation? I know that neither of them are being purposefully malicious or nasty, just really selfish.
Aaaaaaaaaargh

What is the purpose of their visit?

Is it to go to the Garden Party?

Perhaps they have plans with Betty n Bob and were invited to stay there.

You do sound a leetle bit crackers OP

The not returning calls is rude though, give you that

No party is impromtu. Godfather is coming to see my DS.

They are not a couple BTW just 2 mates. one male one female.

I don't get it. You said sometimes they see you, sometimes betty and bob. I don't understand the problem.

I was worried about the Pakistan floods, the teetering economy, and the outcome of the poor miners in Chile, but now that I have heard of your problems with Betty, Bob etc, I have truly grave concerns.

Please do let us know posthaste how this awful situation resolves.

Do Betty and Bob have dc's? If not maybe they feel less in the way/ more relaxed there?

They have said they will see you which shows they are checking you'll be around as in are you around? They haven't demanded you are there. They know they will see you at the party so will probably discuss any future plans then.

I'll give you not returning calls is rude but then again I'm the worst for not even noticing messages on my answer machine

I'm a bit lost on this one. I know it's rude not to return calls. But are you saying they are being 'really selfish' not to stay with you? Why is it so important to you that the friends stay with you?

As mumbar said. If these Bristol friends are single and have no kids and betty and bob have no kids then that may be your answer. Until you have DCs of your own a little bit of someone elses can go a long way.

I think DH and I would have been like that before we were parents

I don't get it either . I don't really understand why this is such a big deal or why you are so desperate for them to stay? Or why you would make yourself look like the idiot in all this by "making yourself unavaliable"

I can kinda see where you are coming from. We have friends who live a long way away and have a few friends and family who live near us, and we have a few friends who live near them. When they come down they never let us know, expect us to drop everything to see them at an hours notice, or fail to see us at all, whereas when we go up we tell everyone and plan things so we get a chance to see everyone - is frustrating when friends don't make an effort to include you in plans, especially when you were once close to said friends. YANBU but I wouldn't make it into a big argument, I think it reasonable for you to go to party and not plan on seeing them the rest of the weekend, maybe point out that would have been lovely to see more of them but life is busy and you need more notice in future?