To expect a 7 year thug old not to swear at me?

[jellyjem]

I was so shocked today I just didn't know what to do. Took my 31 month old little girl to one of those soft play places. She when into an area that I couldn't follow (as I'm too fat through one of those roller things and there was a group of kids playing fine appart from this one thug. I coud hear him arguing with another little boy and for no reason at all he turned round and shoved my little girl really hard. I was fuming and told him off "don't be mean, she's only little, say your sorry" He looked me right in the eyes and told me to "shut up and fu*k-off" I was really shocked. I told him off again, and said I would find his mom and tell her what he had said. He siad it again and laughed and to be honest I just didn't know what to do so I grabbed my little one and walked away. Still fuming and really really shocked at the total arrogance of thos kid, I would never in a million years have spoken to a grown up like that when I was a kid. Think we need to move to a better area.

If it's any consolation, I doubt telling his mother would have helped. He's heard that kind of language and had that behaviour modelled from somewhere hasn't he? I'd have been annoyed but probably also felt a bit sorry for the poor kid, as he clearly isn't being taught how to behave by the people resonsible for his upbringing.

I agree, I blame the parents, probably just the same.

you should have told the staff and let them deal with it

can i ask why are you counting your child's age in months

Not nice to refer to a little child of 7y as a thug. regardless of his baby he is still only a little boy, it's not that long ago since he was your 2 year old's age.

But the language he used it definitely out of order and totally not on. I would have checked out his mum (watched him go back to her at some point) and if appropriate had a word. Or you could have spoken to the people who work there to ask them to have a word.

Oh - and children from all backgrounds can pick up swear words at home and school; doesn't have to be class based. I have known children from all areas use vile language.

Agree with above posters. IME, any confrontation with parents of those sorts of children usually end up with being told to fuck off by the parents. They're horrid.

Our local soft-play is lovely. They really clamp down on kids that behave badly, whether their parents like it or not. I'vr never seen any shitty behaviour there because they just get kicked out, simple.

Yes he may only be 7 does not mean that he cannot be a horrid little boy. Btw confronting the parents maby not be a good idea because you may end up with a torrent of abuse. Learning swear words in the playground or whereever is different to look at someone in the eye and telling someone aggressivly to feck off. Most probably its the type of language used at home that he feels so comfortable in using it to a total stranger who he does not know.

put him in a wheely bin. scrotey little fecker.

Seven year olds can be thugs and that's that.

ROFL at coraltoes.

yes coraltoes that will shut him up, or wash his mouth out with carbolic soap like they did in the olden days

Thats the worse thing I did spot where his Mom was as I saw him run up to a group of people half an hour or so later. I thought about having a word with them but there was 6 of them sitting round a table, they looked really rough and I was on my own with my little girl so to be honest I chickened out and said nothing. Pathetic i know but I hate confruntation and just could'nt face an argument. Wish I had told a member of staff now, it did'nt really occur to me at the time.

Hulababy it does not matter if the boy is 7, that behaviour is unacceptable and he should know better, its not like he is a 2 year old who would not know any better. Children are not silly. Yes he sounds like a horrid boy whose mouth should be washed out with soap and water and that of his family too, so there!

I'd have chickened out too. It probably wouldn't have made a blind bit of difference anyway and would have left you feeling ten times worse. I'd just know that I'd never allow my own kids to behave that way and that's pretty much all you can do isn't it?

"Not nice to refer to a little child of 7y as a thug"

Yes but when yours are still at the toddler stage, children of 7 don't really strike you as being all that little - especially when they are pushing around your 2yo.

ey, I never said his behaviour was fine. Infact I said the opposite. I agreed it was totally inappropriate and suggested telling the staff about it.