My ex, family feuds, wills...(long sorry)

[Tanga]

Had no idea where to put this (maybe I should do a longer version in Legal?)but really just want to check out other people's reactions as I'm a bit

So, split with ex about 8 years ago now. We get on as OK as we can for the sake of DD, now nearly 16. His mother, bless her, passed on about a year or so after we split. Don't think she had much to pass on, didn't hear anything about a will, so assumed DD wasn't mentioned (well TBH didn't really think about it!)

However, MIL had, in her final years, bought her own council house and that has recently been sold. Ex's sister is apparently in charge of the 'estate' and this has caused no end of upset as ex wants his 'share'. Cue all kinds of name calling and abuse extending even to ex's niece. DD is not happy about her father's behaviour (her aunt is handicapped and relatively recently had a stroke, the niece is a single parent - DD feels quite protective of both)

Ex, of course, wants DD to take his side and has told all manner of lies about what is happening - this has made things worse. Particularly as he is a notorious liar and DD has had just about enough - as she pointed out to him, if he hadn't told people his mother was already dead (before she died) in order to swindle money out of them, perhaps his mother would have left him something in her will!

Anyway, niece has said to me that there is 'something' eg money for DD. I don't know if this is in the will or just a gesture that exSIL is making out of kindness. She hasn't contacted me about it - should I try to find out? Is DD allowed to see the will if she is named? Or should I just steer clear of the whole mess?

Tanga,

You're better off staying out of it, it's all to do with your ex, so his problem.... Your ex, you've said, is a notorious liar so he's going to lie to you to get you to feel sorry for him and fight his cause - that will leave you with more enemies than you want...

You've enough going on in your life I'm sure than to be worrying about your ex of EIGHT YEARS...

Yeah, stay out of it Tanga. I know it's tempting to get involved because your DD is on the edge of things, but I wouldn't get into this at all. Let your XSIL handle it. Your DD is old enough to choose how she deals with her dad. He shouldn't be putting her in the position she is in, but she needs to decide how to handle him. He sounds quite horrible tbh, but I guess it's perhaps reasonable that he'd think he was entitled to something. I don't know. But stay out of it. Completely out of it. Nothing can be achieved from you getting involved.

Anyone is entitled to read the will just contact Somerset house in London for this to be send a copy (will cost you a small amount of admin not sure how much these days)

but I would stay out of it

Without knowing the full terms of the will you won't know whats going on. Or who is telling the truth.

Steer clear, it isn't worth the grief.

I agree stay out of it. If your ex SIL really is just the will executer then she should be being impartial and getting on with dividing up the estate though. Having an executer as someone with a financial interest in the estate is often not a good idea, which is why most people nominate solicitors to do this.
As your daughter is still a minor though and possibly named in the will then you could, and some might say should, contact Somerset house (if English) on her behalf to find out the truth.