to be in a mood with my DP

[Cadders1]

Yesterday I had to go into work to prepare for the new term and left our DS with his Dad for the day. Get a phonecall to let me know he has fallen out of his cot!

DS is fine and I would not really be in a mood if I had not told DP last week that I thought the cot needed lowering - he assured me that is was fine and there was no way that DS could pull himself over the bars. Needless to say this is exactly what happened yesterday. Anyway I think he was just being a lazy sod and couldn't be bothered and we were lucky that DS was not hurt. DP obviously thinks I am BU. Whats the consensus? How long should I give him a hard time for?

He probably feels really guilty anyway, esp if he thought the cot was fine. If he was being lazy then hopefully this has taught him something. If he genuinely thought it was OK, then he will also have learnt something - to trust your judgement a bit more. However, if you REALLY thought it needed lowering a week ago, then really you should have done it yourself tbh.

I think is always ok to be in a mood with your Dp. Still he's hopefully learned his lesson, and probably feels pretty bad. Otherwise he'd probaby just have not told you.

Just refer back to it whenever he doesn't do what you want when you want in the future.

He probably feels not only very guilty but shamefaced that you were right.

Just make sure the cot is lowered now (and you've considered any other home safety issues for a baby of his abilities) and then let it drop. You never know when the boot will be on the other foot and you'll be grateful to have set a gracious example!

Why didn't you lower it if you thought it needed doing?

Probably should have lowered it myself - but I was partly convinced that it would be fine and would have only ended up in an argument if I had done it myself. Next time I will though!

Next time, do the safety thing yourself

If you were convinced it was fine, twas sheer luck it didn't happen on your watch, tbh

Don't be "in a mood" because you are transferring guilt, and it is also crap

Give DH a bollocking, admit your part in it, then get on with bringing up the kid without petty sulking and moodiness

It's much more peaceful and pleasant for everyone, that way

You always speak such sense AF!

what anyfucker said

what happens when Ds has an accident when you are with him? will you be starting a thread complaining your DP is cold shouldering you for the sake of an accident

it is not necessary to be huffy about an accident

DH was with our 2 when i was out and DD fell off the bed , hit her head and vomited all over our bed. she'd had some juice so vomited it back, which was red, as i walked in dH ws about to call an amvulance as he thought she'd thrown up blood.

it happens.

you're DS is fine

it won't be the last time he does something you're not prepared for

oh gosh, cadders1, I fully expected you to come back and call me one of them there MN witches after my rather bossy reply

I always speak sense < ahem >

Sometimes I need to be bossed AF. Bit of PFB syndrome I think and I am not really very good at sustaining a mood anyway! I don't think he even noticed - I am so bad at them!

nobody likes a moody cahhhh

even worse when they don't even notice...

try a bit of straight-talkin'...it works wonders