to feel like crying...?

[JjandtheBeanlovesUnicorns]

ive never got on with my ils, never. put my fil has always been very kind and stayed out of any issues we are having with the rest.

small back story, ils run a pub and bil moved in to help start up and so on, bil but of a tit.

bils fiance fell out with mil, so bil went nuts and assulted his own mum, when fil stepped in he attacked him to and hes ended up in hospital having had a heartattack, the same week my grandparent in law, had a serious car accident, and the much loved family dog ran away.

we visited yesterday and i was so extremely upset by seeing the bruises bil had inflicted on his parents and how ill poor fil looks.

i also found out i was pregnant last week and a few days later started miscarrying, if anyone else has seen my previous thread you will know these are adding to a very long list of bad things in 2010.

and i just want a day off from being mummy to wallow, aibu?

also aibu to stop dp beating the shite out of bil, he sayes i am?

YANBU - it sounds like you've had a really rough time, and you don't need your DP adding to taht by acting like a cave man.

Have your pil's considered pressing charges against your bil?

So sorry to hear what an awful year you've had - have a virtual hug x

i dont think he actually would do it, but hes just a man and you know, they like to think thats the thing to do (i actually think bil could kill him tbh)

no idea about the pressing charges thing, its all a bit raw atm and they are trying to keep the business going while making sure fil recovers, might mention it to dp.

Beating the shite sounds like won't help anything, so try to get him to cool. But I'd want to keep out of it for time being. If you don't get on that well, if you're just pregnant, if you've had a tough year. Give yourself a break. As long as fil knows you're concerned and visited, get some space... Really sorry about the situation.