I have recently made the decision to stop my boyfriend's mother from having my 2.5yr old child, due to the increasingly worrying things that occur when she has him. I could go on forever about the stuff that has happened - in fact I stopped her having him before and came here for advice. So let me know what you think of this: The last time she took him was about a week ago. She is ALWAYS late picking him up and dropping him off (and I don't just mean 15 mins or so - I'm talking 40mins, an hr, once she was 2hrs late picking him up, and when he was a baby she was 4hrs late dropping him off and I was frantic as couldn't reach her by landline or mobile). Anyway, when she brought him back (late) I could hear him crying. I looked out of the window and she was trying to get the pushchair up the back step, so the front wheels were off the ground. She was only holding the pushchair with one hand, and with the other she appeared to be leaning over the p.chair and holding down my son. She got him inside and I met them in the hallway. I picked him up and was just about to ask her why he wasn't strapped in - she had to walk along our village's main road to get to me, and even though there is not a lot of traffic, what does pass through does so at speeds of up to 50mph - when I realised that his hair was wet. I don't just mean damp, I mean wet. As it was a warm and sunny day I didn't know why this was. I said to her 'why is his hair wet?' and she started talking about a party she was going to that evening. I then realised that his back was wet as well. Again I said 'why is he wet?' and she then started saying what a good boy he had been. I then looked at the p.chair and there was a wet patch about half a foot wide that ran from the top of the back part to the seat, and the water had run onto the seat and covered a large part of it. The canopy had been pushed back, and when I pulled it forward I noticed that it was very wet. Now, she had brought round a few flowers from her garden that she said my son had picked but there was only about half a dozen flowers and they were quite small. Obviously they had something to do with the water, but the amount of water on the p.chair was way too much considering the amount of flowers she had brought. The flowers had been stuck between the folds of the canopy, and my boyf thinks she poured water over them before leaving the house (and therefore poured water all over my son). I said to her 'why is the p.chair so wet?' and again she avoided the question. This type of thing happens all the time - I ask her a question and never get an answer. She and her husband - not boyf's father - have said in the past that what they do with my son when he is with them is up to them and not me. I don't happen to agree with this, as I am thinking about what is best for my child and they are thinking about what is best for them. Please don't get me wrong - I am not saying they cannot see him, I am saying that I don't want them to have him. One of the neighbours also told me that the last time she took him they saw her at a local park - to get there she would have had to go in the car and I know she doesn't have the correct car seat. I asked her about it and she denied it, but knowing what she is like, I don't believe her. I feel I can't trust her as she has lied to me so many times. The problem I have now is that her husband is getting stroppy about it and is hinting about taking me to court to get access. I have tried to explain that I am not stopping access. I just feel that my son's safety is at risk with this woman. My boyf is backing me up. We are expecting another child in November, and the PIL have already 'told' me that they will be taking my son more often, which I am determined will not happen. Am I being unreasonable?