OK,I'm probab;y being oversensitive, but this comment bothered me.

[DetectivePotato]

Family member phoned last night. I am 15 weeks pregnant. Say hello etc then they said

"so you are still going along then?"

To me this reads as "so you are still pregnant then"

Seems an insensitive thing to say tbh. I haven't had problems with MC etc but we had majoy fertility problems previously and were told we would probably never have children without IVF.

Luckily, after 3 years I got pregnant with DS naturally and conceived on the first try with this one.

What was I suppose to say "yes, I've lost the baby but we didn't bother to tell you" or something? I'm sure they were just making conversation but it did irk me a bit.

Not sure I'd read anything into that, tbh - just a very phatic non-sentence, I'd say, kind of "keeping well?" type thing.

Put your reaction down to hormones and have a cake.

I think you are being abit sensitive. I would read that phrase as meaning something like - "you getting along OK" I have said similar things myself and meant that, its just a way of talking.

You're over-thinking it, they were just asking if you're doing okay. Congratulations!

I would also have seen it as 'is everything OK then' really.

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I think they probably meant it as a way of asking how are you?/are you ok? I have heard people say similar (not when preg) "you going along ok?"

Ok, cake sounds nice but my DS will pinch it. I'm mean and wait until he is in bed.

Just, "how are you doing" would have sounded a bit better I think.

I'm obviously hormonal.

try this one then, I was 11 weeks and a had a small bleed, so took a week off work. One of my friends was 8 weeks at the time, but when I returned to work I only had to look at her to realise she had lost hers. Another collegue, who is the next door neighbour of my friend said to me "you didn't tell her you still have yours did you?" I mean what the hell was I supossed to say, "oh I lost mine too"? when it was going to be VERY obvious in a few weeks that I was indeed still pregnant. Some people don't have the sense they were born with. In the end I didn't have to say anything to her, I just gave her a really big hug and had a cry with her.

DetectivePotato, I would have understood it a different way, more on the line of " you still carry on as normal (everyday stuff)" When I was PG the first time I was totally crippled by nausea all day and could pretty much not do anything I used to.

Could be.

It was just the tone of voice used (like, oh sigh, "your still going along then" as if they really couldn't care) and the almost disappointed sound when I said I was ok. That seemed very odd to me.

Whoops, drip feeding, didn't mean to at all. I always forget that what I am talking about, no one here has any idea.

I wonder if it could be an area thing? where is your relative from? Like I said before I have been asked similar but have to say that is not from people who are from the same area as me but from friends/relatives who are from a distance away. Round here myself and others are more likely to say "how are you doing these days?" kind of questions but just wonder if in some areas questions about 'going along' might just be local speak?

I'm from the South cupofcoffee

I have never heard anyone say this as a 'how are you doing' thing. Thats why I was surprised and didn't know how to take it.

Did you not consider asking "what does that mean"?

Ummm, no.

I'm crap with stuff, its not until after when I think about it.