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Original poster

To have snitched on someone today resulting in them getting a £60 parking fine?

42 replies

sam84uk · 23/08/2010 23:23

I don't think this is really on the right board to be honest because I don't think I've been unreasonable at all but I just wanted to have a moan.

I went to a large shopping centre today to get the kid's school shoes and parked up in the second to last bay on the row. The last bay was also empty. It was raining and I was also meeting up with my Mum so I decided to wait in the car with the kids because she was going to be another 10 minutes.

Next thing a large car pulled into the bay next to me and I noticed the woman driving the car was getting too close. Then her wing mirror (which was a bit higher than mine on the car) started to push up against mine! The driver seemed to have noticed this but carried on pulling forward and pushing my wing mirror back whilst I was sat there. I put my window down and said to her "you do realise that you're pushing my mirror there" expecting her to apologise and either straighten up or park elsewhere. She said to me "yes because you haven't parked in your bay properly, you're actually on the line". I looked down and could see the line which I was clearly within and it was underneath her car. But she continued to attempt to park there, I told her "I can see the line and it's under your car, you're pushing my mirror back". She then said "What you mean like this" and then pulled right into the bay forcing her own mirror right past mine scraping the top of my mirror.

She then got out of the car and walked to the shops! Bearing in my mind that whilst this was going on I had my 5 and 3 year old in the back. My 3yo's car seat was also on the driver's side. I couldn't open my door whatsoever because she'd blocked me in the car. I had to climb out of the passenger's side. I took photos on my phone to prove where we were both parked (which clearly show that I was within the lines and she was parked on them). She had quite a large car and it was obvious that this bay wasn't quite wide enough for it.

When my Mum got there I left her with the children and went to the security office to explain what had happened and if anything could be done about it because she'd deliberately blocked me in my car and had scratched the top of my wing mirror. They came to have a look, took their own photos and issued her with a £60 parking fine for obstructing another vehicle. I have to say I'm quite happy that they did too because she was downright rude.

If she'd have apologised at first and then parked properly then I would have let it go (I probably would have had a good moan to my dp about her when I got home though). I can't believe the cheek of her to be honest and I'm wondering if I should do anything about the scratch to my wing mirror (I've got her registration no) or I should just leave it as she got ticketed for it anyway?

OP posts:
Firawla · 23/08/2010 23:25

YANBU!!!
you could even show the pictures etc to police and see what they say, she has done it on purpose that is criminal damage

justsue · 23/08/2010 23:28

Yanbu! Personally I would now claim of her insurance just to add to it. She wont hurry to block someone else in in a hurry

Original poster
sam84uk · 23/08/2010 23:29

Thanks Smile

I just can't understand the mentality of her as her car was much newer and nicer to mine so I can't understand why she'd want to potentially damage her own car.

My car is 12 years old now so really I'm not overly bothered about the scratch on the top of my wing mirror but I wonder if I should pursue it on principle or perhaps it's not worth the hassle.

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lovemyOJ · 23/08/2010 23:30

but it will cost you to fixz your wing mirror wont it and im sure more than £60 so id get her to pay for that too!!

stupid woman!

Original poster
sam84uk · 23/08/2010 23:31
  • newer and nicer to mine newer and nicer than mine
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justsue · 23/08/2010 23:32

Me personally I would go for principle to be honest. Why do people think they can get away with down right rudeness because that what it is. Good luck

Original poster
sam84uk · 23/08/2010 23:32

oops, I've not quite got the hang of the strikes there.

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SoccerMum · 23/08/2010 23:32

Good for the security people for acting on your info..what an obnoxious woman, I can picture her now!!

My bloody mindedness would make me pursue her for the damage especially as she has incurred a fine that would make it hard for her to deny Smile

llbeanj · 23/08/2010 23:32

unless it's a council car park, then she hasn't been fined, they issue a bit of paper but can't actually make anyone pay.

anyway, as there was an accident causing damage - she should have stopped to exchange details or it should be reported it to the police.
it's unlikely - but it is possible that she may even have reported you for scratching her wing mirror!

Original poster
sam84uk · 23/08/2010 23:34

I'm very tempted, also should I contact my insurer about it. But as I say it is just a scratch/scrape on the top of my wing mirror. I'm not sure if I'd be seen as overreacting.

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abbierhodes · 23/08/2010 23:34

I'd go to the police, the insurance company, everything I could think of! Well done for not keying her car! You now have revenge and the moral highground!

Lauriefairycake · 23/08/2010 23:34

yanbu

I'm very surprised she went off though - if I'd been that horrible I would have expected to come back to a scratched car

Marjee · 23/08/2010 23:36

Wouldn't you love to see the look on her face when she got the ticket?! Grin yanbu at all, I love it when bullies get their comeuppance

LastOrdersAgain · 23/08/2010 23:37

I'd definitely claim. Claim claim claim. Teach her a lesson.

And I'd have parked elsewhere just to sit and watch her reaction when she got back to the car when she realised she had a ticket!!!!

Silly bint. Hate drivers like that.

Original poster
sam84uk · 23/08/2010 23:39

I had a security guard and a parking warden come with me to see how she'd parked. The security guard told me that the parking warden acted on behalf of the town (I'm assuming he meant the council). I was quite surprised by this. I was told that she would be able to appeal it but with the evidence they have it's highly unlikely she'd win.

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paisleyleaf · 23/08/2010 23:39

hee hee
I bet she nearly popped with anger.

Original poster
sam84uk · 23/08/2010 23:43

The security guard actually said he would have been tempted to key the car himself, lol. They did tell me to move my car in case she did anything else to damage it which I did.

I passed the space an hour later and she'd gone. I do wish I'd have seen her face though. Or as my Dp said I should have left my own little note on her car for her.

I was actually quite well behaved because I had the kids with me. If I'd have been on my own I may not have been so polite about it. To be honest I was just taken back by the absolute cheek of her.

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zipzap · 24/08/2010 01:41

beware of claiming on insurance - even if you are not at fault.

We claimed recently as another driver drove into us and despite the fact that he took full responsibility and his insurance company dealt with it all, and that we had full no claims insurance, they still increased our renewal Angry because they reckoned that because we had been involved in an incident we were statistically more likely to be involved in another incident.

Cue long discussion about fault and no claims insurance with person from insurance co but still renewal was increased. Madness! Especially gutting when it was some old bloke that had reversed out of his space in a car park as my dh was driving past - the old bloke hadn't checked as he was driving out, just assumed that as the car park wasn't very busy he would be all right as it was empty when he got into his car Hmm Angry

So what I am saying in a long winded way is I think that you need to think before you report this as the insurance company ask if you have been involved in an incident rather than (or maybe as well as) have you made a claim and for the sake of a scratch you might be pushing your own renewal fee up!

LindyHemming · 24/08/2010 09:31

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waitingimpatiently · 24/08/2010 09:45

YAsoNBU!!
Well done you for complaining! What an absolute cow, if it were me I'd have got out and thumped her!
My DP works at sainsburys and someone did it to my poor little micra but completely demolished the back, and was obviously forcing their car into mine (with what looks like a tank). Obviously no one saw, and the idiot didn't even leave a note apologising or anything. Some people are so damn rude and I congratulate you for finally showing these people that it's not ok!

SkiHorseWonAWean · 24/08/2010 09:45

You should report it to the police as her having caused an accident and driven away without leaving insurance details. :)

What a horrible woman though!

create · 24/08/2010 09:55

Absolutely Ski. I once (accidently) damaged another car in a car park Blush . I left a note with my details, but in my stressed state my handwriting was illegible and the other owner couldn't make out the number. She did trace me through the phone book, but the police told her that if she didn't, it would technically be classed as a hit and run.

So, you could report a "hit and run" to the police, especially as you have he reg no.

CrapSuzette · 24/08/2010 09:57

I am giving you a virtual round of applause and if I could kiss you, I would.
Well done. Something similar happened to me several months ago and I wish I'd had the guts to stand up to the other driver.

CupcakesHay · 24/08/2010 09:58

Brilliant! Well done you! :)

MyMamaToldMe · 24/08/2010 10:08

YANBU at all!!! In fact totally reasonable! I really wonder where people get off behaving like this?

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