Spot on Hammy.
I had a conversation with a friend the other day who is divorced. She works full time on a respectable salary, lives in a house with little/no mortgage worth around average, or above average for the area. She was given in settlement upon her divorce. Her Ex-DH now owns a house with another woman - they both have good full-time jobs and no dependents in the father's new household. The father has regular contact with his children. My friend will be receiving tax credits, (presumably) and free travel for DCs to go to college, and discounted council tax, etc.(presumably).
She was telling me how she will get 'help' with fees and living expenses when her daughter goes to university because she is a 'single mum on a low income'. This is someone who takes her children on cruises and long haul holidays from time to time. Fair enough - she works hard - her money -her choice - I don't begrudge her that, why would I?
But why, when both parents are earning decent salaries, and have decent standards of living, both are in regular contact with the children, should they get 'help' to put their child through uni, when another child from possibly the same or a lower income family not be entitled to any help, simply by virtue of the fact his parents are still married and share the same address?
The mother's income alone may not be huge, but this child is not soley the responsibility of the mother, is she? She has two parents, both earning. The fact that the father chose not to live there doesn't come into it as far as I can see. Or is it just me?
These two people still have the same responsibility to support their children through education as any couple do, do they not? Or am I missing something glaringly obvious - in which case someone please enlighten me.
And we wonder why so many people prepared to bend the truth their personal circumstances to make the most of the system.
It needs to stop.