To feel pushed about by my fathers psycho new wife

[Lovinmybois]

My father got remarried two years ago. I wish i could be happy for him, but he's made a terrible mistake! She claims she has OCD, she's extremely paranoid & jealous. Some of the things i've seen & heard her do beggars belief. She hates him doing anything without her & is so jealous of his past, to the point where she's made him choose between me, my bro & sis! We're not welcome in the 'family' home. My brother was homeless after his partner threw him out, he had to sleep in his car because attila the fukin hun didn't want him in the house. I know we're in our thirties now, but it would be nice to be welcome in my fathers home, am i being unreasonable??

How does your father feel about this? Is any of this his decision?

The heading is meant to say pushed out (not about)!

I think he's a bit two faced. He'll say one thing to her & another to me.

I dont know whether you are being unreasonable or not but you sound very "full on" and if you are like that in real life, its understandable that you haven't got off to a good start with her.

And if she does have OCD, its not very kind referring to a mental health condition as "psycho".

Just a little hint as to where you might be going wrong. Hard to know whether she is to blame or not, really.

No, you are not in the least unreasonable.

My father must've married your step-mother's twin sister! The bloody woman is toxic, was from the moment when we met (I was 22 and had been estranged from my father since the age of 5, she is his 3rd wife) to the day I finally lost my patience and walked away from the whole bloody lot of them, her, her adult daughter and my father too.

I'm afraid that unless your dad is willing to stand up to your SM you may well be in for a rough ride. Like yours, my SM tried, often successfully under threat of throwing dad out, to prevent him from seeing me and the children from his 2nd marriage.

God knows how to change a situation like this, but just be careful. Don't kow-tow to the SM but don't, please, let the problem escalate until you too lose your dad, even if that means keeping a polite distance and seeing him without her knowledge.

I can be full on. But i've seen her angrily pissed on vodka, smashing her car into the back of my dads van with her 5 year old in the car. Then proceed to smash up the house. She'd convinced herself he was having an affair.

It is bloody painful to watch! She really has done some crazy stunts. My sis lost her baby at 5 days old. She was a bit rude to sm on the phone one day & sm got my father to give her a hard time on the phone. Shameful behaviour. They even gave me a hard time when i was in hospital with pre eclampsia (ds was born two days later, c section). A while back she walked out of the house with her little girl, pitch black in the middle of norfolk! Another time she walked out (again with her daughter) down a busy b road. Notoriously dangerous!

I have been keeping my mouth shut since last sept, when i found out i was expecting.

Your dad needs to grow a pair tbh.

If he's like my dad, he won't. so you will just have to see him on your territory or neutral, and totally give up on the golden invite to chez daddy.