To think I am wasting this rather lovely man's life?

[DiscoSquish]

OK brief background history:

We met 2 years ago and are very happy together. He is a couple of years younger (I'm mid 40's he has just turned 40) than me and has been in 2 long term relationships before me. I have 2 children from a previous relationship. We all get along great.

BUT I know that he would like chidren of his own one day as I asked him a couple of months after we met. I've been sterilised and can't have any more of my own so this isn't an option for us.

I have this little niggling doubt that one day he will resent me for this :(

talk, talk ad talk some more and see if you can work things out

keep us updated, lovely to hear that you are both on the same page! Cry worthy!

Just remember its a long road but one you can take together and don't totally discount all of your options

I've shed a few happy tears this afternoon

Best of luck for the future.

Nice you are both on same page, this might help!

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Something to think about is your own fertility. Mid forty does not give you a good chance of getting pregnanct successfully as your eggs are older. My younger sister found at 46 she couldn't get pregnant. She subsequently had IVF with donor eggs and her husband's sperm. It is something to think about in relation to reversal of sterilisation.

Keep in mind, too, that because of your age and already having children, it's not likely you will be able to have any treatment on the NHS. If you have private insurance, this might be the way to go, going to the GP to get a referral to a fertility specialist. As mears points out, given your age, it might be suggested to go for IVF v. a reversal or egg donation, but a fertility specialist can better access this.

Sterilisation reveral is not usually provided by the NHS except perhaps in cases where all the person's children have died or other extreme circumstances like this.

And IVF on the NHS, if at all available, has an age cut off of 40 for the female.