Bit of background: my DD has just turned two and we're friends with a boy who's a month younger than DD, and his nanny.
I invited the boy to DD's 2nd birthday party, delivering the invitation to the boy's house. I thought it would make sense to have the party on a weekend so that a) dads could come and b) that this little boy's parents could come. The RSVP was clear on the invitation.
A couple of days before the party I gave the nanny a nudge and said that I hadn't heard from anyone - was the little boy coming to the party? The nanny told me that his parents wouldn't "deal with me" and that the boy wouldn't be allowed to anyone's house that they don't know.
I thought it was rude that they didn't RSVP to me, or even ask the nanny to.
A couple of months before this, the little boy's older brother had a party organised by the nanny (parents were absent - I've never met them). DD was invited to keep the younger boy company. Of course I RSVP'd and bought a little pressie etc. That's manners, isn't it?
A month after my DD's, it was the little boy's party, again organised by the nanny. We RSVP'd, turned up and brought a card and pressie, of course.
So, I feel annoyed because I feel that they didn't deem me good enough to RSVP to (although they don't know anything about me, apparently). It's hard not to feel resentful, as I'm a full-time parent who puts the effort in with parties etc. Why would they think they're too good?