honest opinions ladies!!!!

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would this piss you off or am i being a tube?

best friend and i are in contact sporadically. however she has been in touch a lot lately since I've been dealing with the whole getting rid of EXp thing. she was the one he nearly set alight at the BBQ last sat and she knew that i was telling him to leave the next day. her husband went golfing with exp on tuesday so i am in no doubt that she knows i did ask him to leave and that we are now separated. but she hasn't texted or rang to see if i am alright or if i want to talk. we really only have each other to talk to, although she has her husband so she knows i haven't got a shoulder to cry on so to speak. i am feeling increasingly more upset about it. i know if she left her husband i would be straight round there and i have two dcs to think about, she has none.

would you be annoyed?

She might not even know, your ex might not have talked about it, he might have but her dh might not have talked to her about it, he might have but she might not know that you want her to know since you haven't called her and told her yourself..... you might be VU to be bitching about her here when you have no idea what she does or doesn't know!

first of all, there is no bitching going on here. i have said i am hurt and asked for honest opinions. i haven't been calling her names or anything.

you are right, the friendship is too good to throw away, but again, that isn't what i am talking of doing. i never said that.

I'm going to ask her to come to lunch. I'd be really surprised if she doesn't know but i will give her the benefit of the doubt.

"Life is too short to populate it with fuckwits." Couldn't agree more. I have culled many friends over the years as they were not true friends at all.

YANBU OP, if my best friend was going through this I would be round there like a shot and vice versa.

Bleh, maybe she doesn't want to jump the gun, maybe she doesn't know what to say, maybe she's wondering why you haven't called, maybe your ex didn't talk about it, maybe her DP hasn't mentioned it to her, maybe you should call her.

So MANY of the problems in this section could be sorted one way or the other by somebody just communicating with somebody else.