to get peeved when I spend time with so-called friends who

[electra]

Act like their dc is more important than yours? And that their dc should have priority over yours?

I have heard stories about this from other mums but never experienced it first hand until recently and it really pissed me off tbh!

In what way exactly? Am not really getting what you mean.

bit more info....

I didn't want to be too specific in case I get recognised.

Just things like expecting your 15 month old (who is just babbling to herself) to 'be quiet' because their child is sleeping.

Yes, my neighbour's like that. We both have two children and she talks about hers all the time. I show an interest (because I like them and because I'm polite!) so I'll ask questions about what they're doing, etc, but she never ever mentions mine at all. She will be quiet if I mention them, but she then talks about hers again, eg "Oh X doesn't do that, she..." and carries on and on and on.

Well expecting a 15 month old not to babble is odd.

They also expect you to think their child is the most perfect being in the world and that you should be as obsessed with them as they themselves are.

I really don't get it - I never expect other people to be captivated by my kids and I always consider the needs of those (and their kids) around me alongside those of my children!

oh i see.
hm, it is annoying my mum & sister are like this. They talk non stop about my niece and never ever bring up my son, never ask about him or mention him.
They only see him about twice a year, i dont take him there as they have very little patience for him.
My dad is the same, he rattles on and on about his 2 boys, no mention at all about my son.
Some people are just so very much 100% into thier children they dont consider any others. Not sure its in any way nasty.

YANBU! I know a couple of people like that

Oh God, I totally get your point.

It makes you very very conscious of it though doesnt it, you know, you find yourself thinking "are they even going to say his name?" I find myself purposefully not mentioning him to see if they even notice.....

It's not that I expect them to even take an interest in my kids.

What I object to is my child (baby!) being snapped at because what she's doing isn't fitting in with their baby. I think it's a disrespectful way to treat a friend tbh.

I know a lot of people like this, seems to get worse when they start school and become uber competitive.

My SIL is like this. Well she doesnt snap at my DCs but she doesn't show any interest and whatever my DCs do, her DCs have done it better/before. grrr

She is that bad, Ive told DD I will pay her for every GCSE she gets a higher mark than her DCs Her DCs have both completed them but Im sure their marks will have improved if DD does better.

Take no notice electra. She has PFB syndrome