to not want to have a cake for dd "early" b'day party with close family.

[PinkyMe]

Okay I'm sure most people will think I'm being silly here, but PIL and other close family are all coming over 2mro at MIL request to celebrate dd's 2nd b'day.

She won't be 2 for another week but they'll be away on her b'day so coming early.

That's ok, but AIBU to not want to take away from her actual b'day by making such a fuss 2mro.

I want her b'day to be really special and I just feel it'll be a let down if we go the whole hog with a cake twice. That's going to be the only thing that distiguishes it as her b'day given she will be opening presents tomorrow.

Fgs- STOP being silly

Cake

Definitely

Don't be precious about it

Happy birthday to dd!

i can understand you are a bit sensitive though, if your MIL arranges your furniture when you are out

Ah okay, MIL interference history puts a new spin on it! But I still think you should have cake....any excuse for cake lol!

Lucilastic - love your name :) Detest your attitude :(

Family might like to sing happy birthday and that is done around the cake. Just buy/make a simple one. Or have a simple one on her birthday.

Pinky think you have had a bit of a hard time here! Agree with the general consensus that 2 parties won't do any harm, but it's sweet that you wanted to keep her birthday "special", and I can appreciate MIL issues! FWIW though DS just turned 2 a couple of weeks ago and had 2 parties both with cake - one a few days before with friends, and one on his actual birthday with family. He loved them both, and all week was talking about his parties and asking for birthday cake, it just kind of added to the build up for him.

You can never have too much cake.

People who love her want to shower her with attention and love because its her birthday. Let them. I would have been devastated if my bestfriend had told me I couldnt have a cake when we had party for her 1yr old, I had lovinly prepared it and bought sparkly candels because I love her.

What's not to love about twice as much cake?

she won't know it's not her birthday. Be glad that they care

'holy cocking christ'pmsl

you have to be catholic thesecondcoming!

pinky a few years ago I would have said yanbu because I wanted every birthday to be truly special for my dcs and didn't want extra days with cake etc. I have now totally changed my mind! Today was my dd's 5th birthday party, complete with cake, candles etc, but it's not her birthday until Wednesday, when I'll give her another cake! I let her open her presents from her friends (something I would never have done a few years ago) but she will have family presents on her birthday. I told her she was like the queen, 2 birthdays!!

yes, the more cake the better! You don't have to knock yourself out or spend a fortune, a little sponge cake or some fairy/cup cakes would be fine.

My DCs always had at least 2 parties - one with their friends and one with the family.

I loved all the party food it too

She is 2 she will have cake this week and think 'Yay! Cake!', next week she will think 'Yay! Cake!'

2 year olds, they are not the most complicated of creatures.