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Original poster

to think that Friends has a lot to answer for.

56 replies

TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle · 21/08/2010 16:56

following on from the other thread, why do people find it so hard to believe that you can remain friends with someone once a relationship has ended? have programmes like friends led us to believe that wanting to remain friends with an ex means that you have unfinished business and will therefore always be one drink away from declaring undying love? why is it acceptable to have friends of the opposite sex but only if they've never seen you naked?

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sorrento56 · 21/08/2010 16:58

YABU it is only a programme and people really ought to make decisions for themselves and not think real life has to be like the telly.

I have never been able to stay friends with an ex as one or other usually wanted more.

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TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle · 21/08/2010 17:00

im not just talking about friends, i'm talking about tv/films in general.

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ChippingIn · 21/08/2010 17:13

I think it's lovely when you can stay friends - but IME (as Sorrento said) one of you usually would still like there to be more, there's often a sexual tension still there and/or a level of posessiveness that makes it difficult.

cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 17:15

I've never felt pressure in this particular area but Sex and the City made me feel incredibly inadequate in the relationships I have with my girl friends. I thought we were all supposed to have a tight-knit grou of friends who would simply drop anything to come and mop your face when unsuitable man #79 has dumped you blah blah blah.

Serves me right for watching such pap, I suppose.

Morloth · 21/08/2010 17:18

Goddamit now I have "feels like you're always stuck in second yeeeeaar..." running through my head.

And No, I am a grown up and am not influenced by sitcoms.

ValiumSingleton · 21/08/2010 17:18

Well, I've never managed it.

the only relationship that didn't end acrimoniously, well I'm just not bothered enough about being in contact with him at all. As a friend, or acquaintance, accountant... just not bothered.

Another x, I had to work hard to get over it, I had a kind of break down after he dumped me callously. Foolishly at the time I wanted to be friends. Now if I saw him I'd just duck into a door way.

My children's father. Well, less said the better. So again, I'd need another DOORWAY to duck into and hide.

VinegarTits · 21/08/2010 17:23

i have never stayed friends with exes, relationships usually end for a reason and then you move on, staying friends would be like always having unfinished business and thats got nothings to do with friends because i dont watch shite sitcoms so yabu

cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 17:24

Friends isn't shite. Hmm

VinegarTits · 21/08/2010 17:26

is its shite imo or was you under the illusion that everybody liked it?

cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 17:27

Sorry VinegarTits, no idea what you're on about!

saucetastic · 21/08/2010 17:28

i blame it for colleagues who always stress their verbs in sentences. I can't believe how much it annoys me.

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TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle · 21/08/2010 17:32

but relationships can end just because you dont want to be together anymore and no longer find each other attractive? thats what i have with my ex. we didnt want to be together, split up, but still really ^really liked each other. we never talk about our history except in a "do you remember that time.. way" which is no different to the relationships i have with all my longstanding friends.

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cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 17:32

Could you be any more unreasonable, Saucetastic?

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TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle · 21/08/2010 17:36

Oh. My. God!

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cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 17:37

GreenKirtles.

We. Were On. A. Break.

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TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle · 21/08/2010 17:39

"cupcakesandbunting Sat 21-Aug-10 17:37:19
GreenKirtles.

We. Were On. A. Break."

ah, spawned a zillion Jeremy Kyle shows!

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cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 17:42

I am most certainly not a regular Jeremy Kyle viewer, but, each time I have flicked onto it erm accidentally, there has been some rat-faced teenager in a shellsuit uttering those words. I can sum up Jeza Kyle in three key phrases;

  1. We were on a break...
  1. DNA test results
  1. Lie detector results
Grin
ValiumSingleton · 21/08/2010 18:01

... as if anybody would lie and say that rat-face git in a tracksuit is the father of my child.

Morloth · 21/08/2010 18:08

I love Jeremy Kyle, is my filthy little gym secret.

People's lives are just so complicated, how does that happen?

sorrento56 · 21/08/2010 18:17

Sometimes I watch and it makes me realise that my life isn't really all that bad Grin.

foreverastudent · 21/08/2010 18:23

isnt it 'second gear'?

cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 18:27

I admit it. I do love a bit of Jezzer Kyle. Blush Total schadenfreude.

tribpot · 21/08/2010 18:28

It is gear, I assumed a typo.

Not sure how Friends backs up the theory. Ross and Rachel were friends after they broke up?

cupcakesandbunting · 21/08/2010 18:32

It's second gear. :)

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TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle · 21/08/2010 18:38

ah but then they got back together.

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