aibu to not bide my time

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puddinmama · 21/08/2010 12:33

I posted yesterday about getting a job, and my dh being a royal arse about it, anyway my best friend has just advised me to bide my time and not take said job but to remain on benefits until something better comes along

aibu to not take this advice and take the job regardless of dh and his opinions and best friend and her opinions, she may be one of those people who think you should do anything to save a marriage by you I mean woman

am so annoyed today and just so frustrated it seems that no matter what I want to do something always happens to get in the way something meaning dh

seriously I could just jump up and down right now and stamp my feet and turn the air blue

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granhands · 21/08/2010 14:48

Take the job, don't stay on benefits if you don't want to. There is nothing better than knowing that you have earnt your own money and are able to support yourself IMO.

YANBU.

EveWasFramed72 · 21/08/2010 15:00

Take the job!! Your DH is crazy for wanting to live on benefits when you are able to work and help support the family.

Take the job...you will feel great about your contribution!

fedupofnamechanging · 21/08/2010 15:37

It's not right that your DH keeps scuppering everything important to you. You may need this job. Besides it's morally wrong to live on benefits if have the choice to work and not be worse off.

ChippingIn · 21/08/2010 15:47

Take the job.
Tell DH to grow up.
Tell friend that you aren't a fucking doormat.

My cousin does cleaning, like you she did it to get off of benefits, she now earns good money. She has lovely, regular clients and only works school hours, in the holidays she cuts back or takes her son who the oldies love - she mostly cleans for older people and they adore her.

Mind you - to see her house you'd think she'd be rubbish at it but she's not and she gets a lot of satisfaction from it.

Your DH might like to take a leaf out of your book instead of relying on benefits because he can't find his dream job!!

Heracles · 21/08/2010 16:08

Do what you want; that's the one great thing about being all growed up.

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puddinmama · 21/08/2010 16:53

thanks everyone, I think in his mind I'm never going to see the kids as I might not be coming home until 7 etc but what can I do we cant continue living this way, I am taking the job anyway hopefully everything else will just fall into place

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ChippingIn · 21/08/2010 16:59

Good on you!! :)

HecateQueenOfWitches · 21/08/2010 19:52

Does your husband work? Is it a case of husband out at work and little woman at home? Or does he want you as a family to remain on benefits?

Anyway, I suppose it doesn't even matter which is the case either way he's unreasonable. If you want to work - work!

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