to think that if my son is happy, and we are happy everyone else should just butt out?

[TheLadyOfTheGreenKirtle]

I have some friends coming over tonight, dh is away and they are bringing their son (nearly 2) I said to df that he can either sleep in ds's room on in mine and dh's until they are ready to go. df said "thats fine, we dont do the strict bedtime thing anyway, especially when dw is off" (she's a teacher).

i spoke to mil and said they were coming and the kids could go to bed when they were tired as J doesnt have a routine and she said "well you never did either and its biting you on the bum now" wtf? ds goes to bed at around 7 on a school night but any other time i am v relaxed about it. he tells me when he is tired. he sleeps well (and always has- we are v lucky) it works for us i dont mind him staying up late if we have guests. We are his parents and we are all happy and healthy!

Did she mean that you as a baby didn't have a routine?

YANBU. My family love to have a dig about our DD because she stays up late. She just soesn't need a lot of sleep - she is very similar to DH in that respect.

She goes to sleep between 9 and 10 on school nights and later in the hols.

She isn't often tired during the day, she is doing really well at school and she knows when she is tired and will take herself off to bed earlier if she feels the need.

I don't often have trouble getting her out of bed in the mornings, she will occasionally have a long lie in at weekends but not often as she has footie training on Saturdays and matches on Sundays during the season.

I have given up trying to explain this to people because they just think "She is a child, she should be asleep by X time".

dome, no she was referring to ds.

hacking, it so annoying. sil is obsessed with routine too, i dont get it!

Ignore her Liss! Your DS is a star and it's none of her business, so there!

I don't get it either but then I come under fire for all sorts of parenting issues in my very traditional "Children should be seen and not heard" family!!