For shoving a carrier bag at DP at Asda yesterday?

[DogDays]

I'm pretty claustrophobic so shopping on a friday afternoon is quite stressful for me. DP shows he cares by dawdling at every product (I mean picking stuff up and literally just staring at it for 5 minutes whilst possibly thinking about something else entirely) and "remembering" stuff we need down ailses that we'd just been down etc.
So after a particulary stressful shop, we get to the checkout and he watches as I put the stuff on the belt we get to the other side of the till and I start packing the shopping. DP stands there staring into space. The till assistant asked "do you want any help with your packing?" I glared at DP and said "no, WE can manage, thanks". Stuff is going everywhere, DP still stood there watching - so I picked up a bag and shoved it at him. He started packing.

Outside he said I embarrassed him treating him like a child and I was in a "right mood" all day.

Was I unreasonable??

no I don't think so. does he really understand your claustrophobia though? i.e. does he know how serious it is for you?

although either way he should help you with the shopping no matter what. it's just polite.

mind you, I normally let DH do the packing. he won't let me as I do it wrong - I don't follow the system :o

Sounds like you'd be far better doing the shipping in your own. Or even better, do it online!
I won't say the 'O' word.

Oh dear with those typos I sound like I've got s south African accent :o

does he know how hard you find shopping? why doesn't he do the shopping on his own?

No, def. not unreasonable.

God, honestly, how many more cues did he need/want visual or otherwise.......!?

Maybe he thought you were both there in your capacity as secret shoppers assessing the quality of their decor.....

Pfffft.......DP and I do this exact same dance that's why usually I do the shop on my own now.....

If he doesn't want to be treated like a child, he shouldn't behave like one. Don't let him get away with this kind of stupidity.

why dont you do the shopping on your own then that way you can get it over with quicker.

i always find if my dp and i try to pack at the same time it ends up us both trying to pack the same item.

if he is doing the driving ask him to wait in the car or go do something else while you shop.

Why are you putting yourself through this? Do the big shop online.

Online sounds good BUT I don't think Dog should just do all the shopping herself - that's rewarding her dp for his toddler-like behaviour.

Any chance he was trying to remember his Pin no?

YANBU on the whole. My ex-h was brought up by a very controlling MIL and as a result always takes a back seat if she or I (or any woman really) is around. Left to himself, though, he more than fends for himself - I've learnt just to let him get on with it by himself.

If you don't like shopping (and I empathise, I really do), why not just ask him to do it by himself in future. You could always give him a list if he wants guidance.

The only bit I would say YAB a little U about is declining the offer of help. Checkout people are there to help so if they offer, why not let them pack? Especially if your DH was having a vacant moment.

God i NEVER take DP shopping he is a bloody pain in the arse in supermarkets! His personal annoying shooping habbit is to tut at everything i put in the trolley throwing in the ocassional 'do we really need that?' and 'Are you done yet, lets get out of here.'

My sister also leaves her DH at home as he insists on everything being stacked in the trolley in size order and strops if it isnt done.

The moral of the story is, NEVER take your DP shopping with you. I go in the evening to our 24hr Store then DP puts the kids to bed while i shop at my own pace in peace and quiet.

YANBU BUT why would you need both of you to do the week's shop on a friday afternoon? FGS do it online!

Algebra lols. My DH also won't let me do the packing of groceries as I don't follow the system! He gets really irritated. So I just leave him to it and I am in charge of paying on our card and presenting the Nectar card. Everyone's happy!

OP, I second Tits. Leave your DH at home next time and then you shop at your own pace in peace and quiet.

if he's not going to help you then go without him

lol -TitsalinaBumSquash :)

Does anyone else have to go around the aisles in a certain order?

DP whines like mad if we don't exactly follow
his pattern hmm

YANBU - what was he thinking, standing their like an idiot while you're right in front of him struggling to keep up with the packing!

I also recommend online shopping though, or if you've got a big supermarket locally with 24 hour opening, go late in the evening when it's quiet. I get stressed and panicky in crowded places like supermarkets too, don't put yourself through that if you don't have to.

I thought that you take husbands shopping so they can pack the bags and load up the car -
Is that not what they are for?

Mind you, mine has had 25 years' training.

What edam said.

Couldn't you have just asked him to help?

Claustrophobic or not, shopping on a Friday afternoon is hell on earth, esp on a Payday Friday. If I occasionally ever need to run in for weekend treats, eg a pizza, I make it quick and use the self-service tills.

Why put yourself through it?

My DP is the same though, he's such a ditherer. I avoid arguments by just leaving him at home these days.

DogDays - if you really hate supermarket shopping in the way you describe why dont you buy your groceries online?

Online grocery shopping has made our life much nicer and easier. Our DSs have been in a supermarket no more than 5 times in their lives.