in having a row with dh in Tesco

[asdx2]

(snarling quietly not full on shouting) Because having just come back from a couple of days away where dd was spoilt rotten plus knowing we go away for a week in 8 days I refused to buy her more plastic crap a much wanted Disney Princess set for £20.
Dh called me tight and prolonged the sulking by giving dd false hope that he could win me round (he can't)
He can't bear to say no which makes life much more difficult for me.He has always been the same dd1 was/is spoilt rotten and I am the baddie for putting in boundaries.
Feel stressed out dd has forgotten all about it now but dh is sulking because apparently it is a very unattractive trait to be mean

Gosh asdx2 our household is so similar.

DH cannot bear to think of DS not having something he might like, primarily because DH came from a poor household where there were very few toys and feels he was deprived and doesn't want DS to be. However I came from a middle class household ( went to private school) and was still very used to only getting toys and christmas and birthdays with nothing in between.

DH goes through spates of buying stuff, I try not to disagree or snarl in front of DS (4) but we do have conversations about it. DH is getting better and not buying as much, primarily because we can both see how much plastic tat is underfoot and also because DS's favourite games usually involve making paper trails of sticky notes ( 99p a huge block from Tesco) so why go to the expense of something else.

I agree with you and not your DH. If he is desperate to buy stuff perhaps you could agree a monthly limit on it.