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Giving money at a wedding

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sanielle · 20/08/2010 10:54

My friend is getting married and has asked for holiday vouchers, I think she has done it because asking for cash is a bit cheeky. So I'd rather just give her money which she can use for drinks etc on their honeymoon. Just can't think of a way of prettying it all up.

Do I just stick it in the card? That seems a bit miserable. But don't know what else to do? Also how much should I give? She's a good friend and I know the wedding has been hard for them finacially even though she hasn't gone overboard? I was thinking 50 but not really sure how is normal here? I am not from the UK. So how much and how do I wrap it?

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Shaz10 · 20/08/2010 10:58

Cheque in the card, £50 is just fine.

Shaz10 · 20/08/2010 10:58

Or in the currency of the country they're going to.

LucindaCarlisle · 20/08/2010 10:58

Greek weddings they pin bank notes to the wedding dress of the bride, for tradition and luck. Ask her whether she has ever been to a Greek Wedding?

proudnsad · 20/08/2010 10:59

I'd always assume the bride and groom ask for what they want and probably don't want alternative gifts, though your thought is very sweet.

And money is always appreciated. Unlike some I think it's a perfectly acceptable gift and perfectly acceptable to ask for it as a wedding gift.

How much depends purely on your finances. I always give equivalent of £100 for close friends, others will think that's OTT/stingy!

Shaz10 · 20/08/2010 11:01

Our travel agent offered us the option of asking for travel vouchers, and said they'd just give it back to us in cash, so chances are this is what she's doing anyway.

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sanielle · 20/08/2010 11:02

I thought about giving her currency shaz, they aren't sure where they are going yet! THink it may depend on how much they get :)

That would be cute too Lucinda, but weird if I am the only one :) . I think they are starting to do it in the states a bit too.

Might stick a cheque in don't know why I didn't think of that. I could put for wedding somewhere on it :)

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sanielle · 20/08/2010 11:04

Thanks proudandsad I'd like to give closer to a hundred, but we can't strech to it at the moment. :( Not sure how the vouchers work, they are doing it through debenhams.

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sanielle · 20/08/2010 11:05

shoudl have been can't stretch to it, maybe I'll do 75

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mamaloco · 20/08/2010 11:09

In japan you have little envelopes to put cash in at weddings. You can give them a cheap piggy bank with some money in it, so it can go to something special slowly? If they would like the idea, some of my freinds would, but I can think of 1 or 2 who would be horrified! Wink

emptyshell · 20/08/2010 11:15

We got one wedding present of a completely daft Nodding Nessie (well she's classier than the nodding dogs) holding a cheque.

Nessie now lives in my car.

And give whatever you're comfortable with - I refused to request cash, or gift lists or anything for the wedding (got presents and stuff anyway) because I hate this whole mental deliberating of how much people have to give thing.

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sanielle · 20/08/2010 11:18

Not sure what a nodding nessie is, is that like the churchill dog! I bloody love him!

I really like the piggy bank idea mamaloco! think you may be on to a winner there. WOuld it be funny to give them 50 quid in pound coins inside it?

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mamaloco · 20/08/2010 11:21

sanielle it depends on their humour (or lack of) only you can answer that one! Grin

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sanielle · 20/08/2010 11:23

I love her dearly but annoying her gives me a great pleasure too.

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Isawthreeships · 20/08/2010 11:31

Sanielle, I would go with cash, not a cheque, unless you are very sure of what the bride and groom's names will be after the ceremony.

A few of our guests gave cheques but got our post-wedding names wrong (I didn't change mine) and the bank refused to accept them.

It was very embarrassing - we sat on the cheques for a while until the guests started to ask why the cheques hadn't been cashed and then we had to 'fess up. (Thankfully, they were all very good about it and each offered to write out new cheques) Blush

In a nice card is fine. If they want cash, they will be really grateful that you've given them cash, and not another toaster that will sit in the back of a cupboard for the next ten years.

gingernutlover · 20/08/2010 11:37

put the £50 in one of these

that would annoy me, cos you have to break it to get the money out LOL

ben5 · 20/08/2010 11:45

one wedding i went to they were saving for a washing machine and a couple of other big white goods. they didn't expect this as one present of one person but would be grateful of donations towards this. i gave 20 pounds but it was just before christmas and we had to pay for accomadition so couldn't afford much else. we put the money in the card and she was happy

sayithowitis · 20/08/2010 12:02

How about using the notes to make one of these?

double heart

the instructions are here

Somebody gave me money folded into an appropriate design when it was my birthday last year and it really made it feel special!

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