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AIBU?

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Original poster

to not want to hear about my friend's threesome?

77 replies

CheerfulYank · 20/08/2010 04:38

So, a friend of mine and her husband had a threesome with a female acquaintance. Whatever, they're consenting adults and I have no say as to what they do behind closed doors, but AIBU to want them to keep it there? My friends and I talk about sex, obviously, but I feel like this friend is sort of bragging about it in a "oh look I'm so cool and edgy and sexy" way, which is really annoying. I told her that I didn't want details, and yet it still seems to show up in the bulk of her stories. It makes me want to avoid her, but her husband has just been shipped overseas and I feel like I need to be there for her. I'd just, you know, like to do that without hearing about her bedrooms romps with her husband and this other woman! :)

So, AIBU?

OP posts:
Lovinmybois · 20/08/2010 04:53

No your not being unreasonable! Just tell her to shut up!

Original poster
CheerfulYank · 20/08/2010 04:59

Good to know! I'm not a prude or anything, but enough already. Seriously.

OP posts:
Lovinmybois · 20/08/2010 07:25

Its one thing to laugh & joke about sex with friends, but thats far too much information. Once or twice is funny, but to go on & on & on ..... Good luck, i hope she listens to you.

AnyFucker · 20/08/2010 08:28

just tell her she is being boring, you've heard it all before

just because she thinks she is cool and racy, it doesn't mean she isn't being crashingly tedious

threesomes are so 70's though, aren't they ? Wink

cupcakesandbunting · 20/08/2010 08:31

Well, I would like to hear all about it.

Can you get your friend on here instead? Grin

belgo · 20/08/2010 08:33

Gross.Just an excuse for her husband to shag another woman. And she probably knows this, which is why she did it in the hope that he wouldn't do it when he's working overseas.

ccpccp · 20/08/2010 08:40

I doubt she keeps bringing it up just to boast about it.

You should be flattered :)

ilovemydogandMrObama · 20/08/2010 08:41

Could you say something like, 'shame you didn't do a DVD of it so I could hear about it just the once...' Or would this be too mean?

CerealOffender · 20/08/2010 08:43

put your fingers in your ears and shout 'lalalala' everytime she brings it up

ChippingIn · 20/08/2010 08:47

Cupcakes - I was thinking the same :)

ccpccp - mwah mwah mwah

CY - do you think this means they'll be spending 'quality' time together while her he is away? Do you think, he thinks, this is the green light to shag who he likes while he is away??

mayorquimby · 20/08/2010 09:02

can we hear about it?

girlwithsparklyhair · 20/08/2010 09:09

YANBU, too much information, bleugh.

LisaD1 · 20/08/2010 09:25

YANBU. My Sister decided to share the same info with me about her now ex and ex best friend (apparantley they had a threesome and he then thought it was ok for him to shag the best friend without my sis!)

Way tmi, I don't want/need to hear about it!

HumphreyCobbler · 20/08/2010 09:25

I do not want to discuss sex with my friends AT ALL

DetectivePotato · 20/08/2010 09:38

YANBU, I don't generally discuss sex with my friends, but I do have to hear all about how one is ttc and what position she is doing it in, when she is ovulating, if she has discharge, that she is laying with her legs in the air for 20 mins after, that she got in from a night out at 6am and woke up her DH to have sex as she thought she may be ovulating. Euughhhhhhh.

People, we don't need to hear details thanks!

Your friend is probably going on about it as her sex life is so mundane normally that she has done something different and feels the need to brag as much as possible.

Tell her you have heard enough details thanks and change the subject when she brings it up.

Jamieandhismagictorch · 20/08/2010 09:38

Maybe she's sounding you out for your reaction? Maybe they have discussed you as their next participant?

Morloth · 20/08/2010 09:51

I am with mayorquimby, can we hear about it? Wink

Just the once though.

Alouiseg · 20/08/2010 09:54

Hands up for a full rundown on here.

Me :)

DetectivePotato · 20/08/2010 09:55

Oh yes, I want to hear. Far more interesting than my friend ttc.

Continue OP. Smile

TheFirstLady · 20/08/2010 09:56

I think I definitely need more details before I can comment. Grin Tell her you don't want to hear any more about it but you know some people that do....

LucindaCarlisle · 20/08/2010 10:06

Did all three participants enjoy it?

capricorn76 · 20/08/2010 10:12

All my friends seem to do at the moment is moan about how shit their lives are. I'd love the pity party to be broken up by a threesome story but I guess even that would get boring eventually.

cupcakesandbunting · 20/08/2010 10:38

Come on OP. Get your mate on here. We need something to liven up a friday morning and since she's not our friend, there will be no "ick" factor for us. :)

LucindaCarlisle · 20/08/2010 11:00

Ask her what colour underwear that she and her friend were wearing? Did they wear matching colours?

LucindaCarlisle · 20/08/2010 11:24

If her husband has just been shipped overseas then she may be looking for "more bi-sexual fun"