Basically, since trying for our DD2 18 months ago our sex life has been pretty non exsistant and when we have got jiggy it has mainly been at my instigation. I do think DH probably did feel a bit under pressure when we were trying as was a while and we were both working away a lot so only had a few opportunities and even i breathed a sign of relief when i did get caught so there would not be the pressure every month. But i thought after a few months things would go back to normal. However, 18 months later my DH just does not seem that bothered about getting intimate. We cuddle and are very affection all the time but just not sexual. I accept that i have not either but its because i want him to instigate and show that he wants to be intimate with me. Am i being unreasonable to expect DH to instigate or should i just do it all the time?
I actually feel quite embarassed about this and feel cannot talk to friends etc as i just feel everyone around me has a normal healthy sex life and are doing it twice a day everyday!