to ask him to pick up his dirty pants & keep the kitchen tidy?

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DH leaves his pants, shirt & socks on the bedroom floor every day. He likes to wait until there's a nice little bundle of them (3 days or so) before putting them in the washing basket. I hate hate hate dirty clothes in the bedroom, so I always end up picking the damn things up myself every morning.

I don't mind him leaving a pair there when he takes them off at night, but AIBU to ask him to put them into the basket every morning?

He's accused me of being too controlling and wanting everything my way, but the only things I really harp on about are this and having a clean & tidy kitchen (I'm not all Kim & Aggie - just don't like dirty dishes sitting around beside the sink).

I know it's just a piddling little problem in the grand scheme of things, but it pisses me daily and we had a big row about it today when I asked him (yet again) to deal with the pants and either wash his sodding cereal bowl or put it in the dishwasher.

AIBU? Should I just chill and either let the dirty stuff sit around or should I shut up and do it myself seeing as I'm the one that's bothered about it?

Flippin Heck - I would never win House wife of the year award but what you are saying is plain slovenly.

YANBU at all. It is basic hygiene stuff.

In our house crap left all over the floor goes in the bin and it doesn't come out again. Doesn't matter what it is.

DH learned the hard way when he moved in, but he learned quickly.

I was going tgo post YANBU, and I thought the title was referring to an obnoxious DS.
No logical reason for him not to put laundry in the basket and sort the dishes, he's being unreasonably inflexible and stubborn about a bad habit.

Anyone over the age of 2 can put their pants in the laundry basket.
Send him round and I'll get a toddler to show him how.

My 2yo puts her clothes in the washing basket at the end of every day so YANBU!!

Either bin them or stop doing his washing IMO.

YANBU!

Sounds like he's being the controlling one, by doing things that clearly wind you up!

I would put a wash basket in the bedroom, in the exact spot he leaves his pile. Then he will look very childish if he doesn't put his clothes in there.

Or you could just tell him you're not moving his stuff anymore and if its not in the basket it doesn't get washed. I did this, DH soon got the point when he got out of shower one day and he had no clean underwear!!

YANBU!

Sounds like he's being the controlling one, by doing things that clearly wind you up!

I would put a wash basket in the bedroom, in the exact spot he leaves his pile. Then he will look very childish if he doesn't put his clothes in there.

Or you could just tell him you're not moving his stuff anymore and if its not in the basket it doesn't get washed. I did this, DH soon got the point when he got out of shower one day and he had no clean underwear!!

I I beg my DH to just leave dirty washing on the floor, or if possible the corridor floor because I am always finding wet towels on clean washing, socks where I expect clean ones to be etc. Now when I am in doubt, I wash it which means I am re-washing clean too. I haven't had a shower in two days because by the time I clean up his breakfast (damn george forman grill) DS needs feeding again, then I get another 5 min to do some more housework, or sort the other 2 DSs, then DS3 wants feeding again. I still haven't cleared after DHs breakfast today, let alone got my own yet - think DS3 is on a 6 week growth spurt. :(

QLB, my OH does the laundry and has the same rule, not in basket, not washed.
No appeals!

i was brought up in an 'away or in the bin household' and by golly it works. i have vivid memory of my mates amazement at me having to fish in the bin for my school shoes, my fault as i left them in the doorway, i knew what would happen. needless to say i am a very tidy person now. i suggest that anything you pick up because it isnt in its rightful place gets put in the bin. :)