My DS (12) has a friend who is very forceful (means well) and is always ringing to try and get together with my DS - they do talk on phone inbetween.... last summer hols they only got together once and his mum almost had a go at me about it. But, the first week we kept clear, the 2nd and 3rd weeks we were away anyway and in the 4th week we couldn't get a date when theyy were both free so that left last week and a half in which we managed to get a morning for them to meet up. It;s not that my son doesn't value the friendship, he does, but we do like to do a lot of things as a family over summer hols/meet up with other friends/see our families, etc and I don't think we should be made to feel guilty! The friend gets all defensive and then his mum wades in - I just tend to leave it to my DS to phone him or arrange a get together - and as I say, my DS values him greatly, just likes to do his own thing too. One of my other friends sort of has a similar problem with this mum in that she is always asking for her DS to come over and won't take no for an answer... she also phoned by son early morning once to ask if he could look out for her son /help him if he gets stuck etc(won't say what it was for) - of course my son is a good friend but he has to think of himself at school and I just feel that she thinks the whole world should revolve around her son!! Sorry for long rant.