Hacked hair on DD

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My DD has returned from visitation with her hair hacked off at the back (half an inch shorter on one side and close to the scalp in places). It does look like an accident may have occurred but no attempt has been made to correct it. I have had no explanation from ex and am fuming.
What would you do?

yanbu - I'd be hopping mad too.
But I don't know what you can do about it.

I would send him an email - telling him that he needs to explain what happened or he will not be getting her on his next visitation.

You can't let your child go somewhere when they don't even have the decency to let you know what has happened to her.

Do you fear her safety in any (other) way when she is with them?

Yes, kids do stupid things and yes a 2 year old can cut their hair anywhere on their head - but at 2 she shouldn't have access to scissors sharp enough to do that unsupervised.

It may have been a friend/cousin etc - but you need an explanation or how are you supposed to trust them>

I don't know your situation nor do I need to, but really, if he has access to your daughter - how can you plan on never, ever, speaking???

All child arrangements are done through email so minimise arguments in front of the children, but he is allowed to speak, he could have done. He said she had not had any dinner.

No he is not a 'bad' dad, just was a 'bad' husband!

My DD aged 2 used to wear her hair in bunches, she got hold of a pair of scissors (right under my nose - I was doing some sewing) and cut off one of them and also her fringe (she looked like the bloke from Slade :) ) - all in under a minute.

The hairdresser asked me if I had cut it myself

At 2 years old my DD got hold of a pair of children's scissors (the plastic ones) and hacked out loads of her hair at the back. Still to this day (she's now 6) she swears that someone else did it - only she and I and the two cats were in the house at the time - I guess the cats did it.
When I took her to the hair dressers soon after they said this is alarmingly common.
All I am saying is keep an open mind as to what might have happened and your LO spin on that.

Is your MIL as deluded about her own hairdressing ability as my mother?

Luckily for DD, I'd already seen on my nieces what happens when Granny says, 'I'll just give it a bit of a trim for you, mummy won't mind... ooh, it's not quite straight, better take a bit more off that side... now look what you've made me do with your wriggling!'

SIL probably posts on here on all the MIL threads.

If her father claims she did it herself and you make a big fuss about her being left unsupervised with scissors, you can guarantee she will do the same thing when you are in charge of her, thus making you look like a prize donut :)

Or, just before you hand her over on the next visit, she will draw a beard on herself using permanent marker pen. [sigh]

SoupDragon, yes had already thought of that. It is more the fact of the lack of some form of communication rather than the act itself. Accidents happen, usually when they are with me, admittedly.

Have you thought of trying to be civil with him? I know it's difficult and I don't know your circumstances but even if you just act as if you at least like him then it's better for dcs. My ex drives me nuts sometimes but I'm always polite.

YANBU I would be annoyed, especially if it turned out she did it herself, as I'm sure I'm not the only one who strongly believes 2 year olds should not be messing about with scissors!

Hopefully a hairdresser can get it looking decent again, and it will grow back before you know it.

My daughter of 7 yr old cut her hair 1 week ago.She then had to have a comb-over to hide her number 2.She was really upset by the experience, we felt as parents that it was inappropriate to be anything other than understanding but did emphasis to her how lucky she was that her crop could be disguised. However this week she has again cut her hair and we are now unable to disguise the fact.
We are really concerned that there is a underlying cause any help / suggestions are welcome