...to think a two week 'break' in a relationship is a BAD thing?

[GrumpyMoo]

Hello there again. (kind of a follow up to my other post of meeting my DP's daughter for the first time) I'm so cross right now. My lovely DP has decided that he needs 'space and time' to get his head together.

Am I right in thinking he's just being a selfish child or have I done the right thing in 'backing off' as he has asked? Who's being unreasonable here?

GM, just close your eyes and imagine being with someone who can't wait to see you... whose face lights up when you ring... who asks what you fancy doing next year... who tells you how happy you make him... Imagine a relationship where it's easy and nobody wants to take a break.

Hold onto it. It's what you deserve.

tethersend I'm holding on for that so tight I've got white knuckles. OK, maybe I won;t get it from this relationship, but I'm hoping that something opens his eyes and he realises that we can have that. He only has to want it enough.

You can have that. You do not have it right now.

You can have it and whether or not it's with him is academic- please don't settle for second best.

I'm not trying to settle, but we all make mistakes and it would be the harshest lesson if no-one ever gave us the opportunity to make it better or redeem ourselves. I think that is where i went wrong with my OP. I spoke out of hurt and not with my usual 'clarity' of big picture.

Good luck- I hope it works out for you

I had a relationship a few years back, quite a complicated one for a few reasons. I also requested 'breaks'. I guess ultimately because I didn't fully trust be gut instinct (and some evidence) that the relationship was no good for me. After the final, longest break, of 1 month it was obvious what the answer was when I really didn't want to see him anymore.

So, in my experience, it probably is the start of the end however I know other couples who have taken long breaks and ended up becoming more loved up than ever and getting married.

I think you are right, it may be a pretty selfish/immature thing to do but I can put my hand up to having done it. I have to say I don't regret having done it and my friend who had it done to her ultimately had a much better relationship after it and got married about 10 days ago!

I think you have done the right thing by backing off. I hope it all works out for you both!

Ahh thank you so muchf ro posting SeaTrek. It is the hardest thing to do the right thing without losing your own integrity or self.