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...to expect to be able to buy sensible shoes that fit my child?!?!

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scarymamma · 17/08/2010 21:35

Aaaargghhhh! It's one of my least favorite times of year. The 'let's get new school shoes' time. For the past 8 years I have had to sit and smile whilst some numpty shop assistant measures my childs feet and then gasps in amasement and then informs me that she has 'very narrow feet'. Really! Gasp! Shock! Surprise! D'oh - I'm her mother dya not think I know that? They then go on to ask 'have you seen anything you like?' From experience I now know to just say 'Why don't you just go see if you have anything to fit her, and we'll take it from there'. I reckon that 60% of the time they come back empty handed. So you have a child that has shoes that are a)worn out b)too small (delete as appropriate) and you have just been told that the shop can't help. The number of times we have been forced to buy ill fitting shoes with multiple innersoles JUST so the shoe doesn't literally 'fly' off her foot when she walks is shameful.
What is even more annoying is that the limited number of D fitting shoes are always open, pump style. My children have and will, for the forseeable future WALK to school - even in the rain. The poor thing has cold, wet feet all winter. There are shops catering to AA and AAA womens shoes - so why don't they stock children's shoes? Did these women suddenly turn 18 and their feet suddenly become narrow - NO! It was bad enough when DD was little - she's now 12 with size 7 feet, 5'10" and like a bean pole, so clothes buying isn't much fun either. She hates shopping for clothes and shoes. She see's all the other girls buying fun, fashionable things. I try to get her to try things on and she just says 'There's no point - it won't fit' and sadly she's generally right.
Sorry Ladies - just had to get it out of my system. Wish me luck for tomorrow. Ho hum - Clarks and StartRite you've been warned - here I come.

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OnlyWantsOne · 18/08/2010 18:26

Can I add my 3 year old is the same - went to Brantano to get her some new shoes, not for school but want some clarks doodle type proper fitting shoes, shes 4 in Oct and size 11 e feet

Not one pair on FLAT shoes in her size. The rest were glitterey hannah monata shit with heels

arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

scrappydappydoo · 18/08/2010 18:26

YANBU - dd1 has v. narrow feet - I actually went to buy her school shoes last week - thinking it will take me the usual month of trawling round shops to find ones that fit. Went to John Lewis - had a choice of two(!!) - one fitted better - no gimicky toys, dd liked them job done - £25 (!!) I almost passed out in shock..
I am always deeply Envy who can walk into tescos and just buy a pair and they fit.. whereas I (normally) have to drag dd around to try them on and spend a fortune..

Ineed2 · 18/08/2010 18:29

You should definatly go independent, try Ricosta, the leather insole lifts up and you can put another ordinary insole underneath, Ecco used to do the same but they hve stopped making school shoes, shame co they were excellent for my skinny footed kids. We abandoned clarks/startright years ago after several dodgy fits and returning to collect ordered shoes which still didn't fit.

ValiumSingleton · 18/08/2010 18:31

The branch of clarks I went to had nothing left in 10 1/2 H. NOTHING. I didn't think that I'd left it that late.

I had to buy him startrite from an independent, and oddly he was only a ten there.... I'd feel guilty if I spent that much on my own shoes.

hellymelly · 18/08/2010 21:21

clarks and startrite have different sizing sytems,so that is why your DS was a different size in startrite.And then there are the euro sizes,it all gets very complicated!

Horton · 18/08/2010 21:23

God, don't go to Next, whatever you do. Their shoes are absolutely atrocious for small children, IMO. Very hard leather, no give at all, weird sizing and they gave my daughter blisters after only one wearing (she's three and had to be a flower girl for a wedding wearing Next sandals). She ended the day in her Converse trainers, looking nuts with the dress but at least comfortable.

I'm delighted to hear about the Clark's narrow fit range for adults/teenagers as their shoes are normally v wide so I may well check that out.

laloue · 18/08/2010 21:27

Agree with AngelH re: Hush Puppies...it's not the easiest time of year...Rhino are Startrite, btw. Disagree with the idea that Saturday staff are less experienced, ours generally work all day Sat and Sun and sometimes an extra day in the week...they do nothing BUT fit children's shoes for their entire shift, year round and know the stock inside out. Surely that's better than someone who ducks in and out between adult's and children's shoes? I'm in my thirties and also have learned to generally ignore the "numpty" comments I receive in store , but I would say that just because you waited an hour in one shop, then twenty minutes in another DOESN'T give you the right to call any of my staff (20 year old student) a "silly little cow" when she has tried and failed to fit your stroppy 12 year old in shoes she has already advised you are unsuitable. I don't think anyone would deliberately fit shoes badly, (what's to be gained?), but I would say that sometimes,even when I have firmly told both parent and child that the shoes don't fit...they still buy them because they're what the child wants...ie: everyone else has them.Incredibly frustrating!

shockers · 19/08/2010 10:01

Next shoes might be hard leather but they aint hard wearing! Took DD only 3 weeks to separate upper from sole!! They were £25... the ones I get now from the independent shop are £35-£40 but they last for a full term and seem to correct her in-turn.

Horton · 19/08/2010 10:12

Good grief - three weeks! DD only wore her Next sandals once as they were so uncomfortable and hurt her poor little feet.

Our independent shop is really good, too. And yes, DD's shoes cost a fortune but it's worth it.

bobs · 31/08/2010 14:55

Well having read all your posts, all I can say is...wait till your kids are older (DDs aged 13 & 16 in my case) and insist on buying everything out of Topshop etc - it's a joke seeing them trying to walk in "fashionable, barely there, black pumps (not for them anything remotely built up in the heel - not cool!). Like me, they have narrow heels and I gave up trying to find pumps that stayed on my feet years ago Sad. I really hate the shoes they wear for school - God knows that they are doing to their feet. I managed to at least find something reasonable for them from Clarks till they were about 12 and refused to wear such built-up shoes - which at least stayed on and lasted more than a term...grrrrrrrr!

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Mibby · 14/07/2011 18:40

I cant offer any useful ideas but just wanted to send my sympathy. I have stupidly narrow, bony feet and struggled throughout school to get suitable shoes that fit, usually ending with lace ups and insoles and thick socks. Couldnt wear trainers for years as even laced super tight they slipped about and rubbed blisters. I still cant get slip on styles, like heels, that fit well enough to walk in without paying a fortune

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