To tell DD to go and be ill in her bedroom?

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DD has a sore throat. Most people would just suck a throat sweet but no, she's practically dying with it, insisted I make her an apointment for doctors and insisted it was at least a throat infection, more likely tonsilitis well, doctor thought it was that bad that he didn't even give her anything for it, just told her to suck lozengers so it can't be that bad!
Anyway, since yesterday she has been lying on the sofa, all day everyday wrapped in a dressing gown acting as if she is on her last legs. Its starting to wear a bit thin now, I have loads to do and I'm tempted to tell her to go up to bed if she's that ill. Or is that mean?

I really can't be doing with people exagurating illnesses around me. Its only a sore throat ffs, I don't see the need to take up an entire sofa for two days straight over it.

tonsillitis is excruciating

I am assuming you are stressed, rather than mean, but you do come across as mean I'm afraid

she's a child who feels rotten

would it kill you to be kind?

Did the doctor tell her to gargle with warm salt water, and take Tylenol for the pain? Is she running a fever?

She can be sick in her room, better not to spread her germs all around anyways, in case it is strep. I hope the doctor took a throat swab?

I tend to pamper sick people, making chicken soup and hot lemon drinks.

Blimey you're getting a rough ride on here op
a malingering daughter and people telling you it's because you don't give her enough attention? Lol

I too have a dd who can exaggerate illnesses, and as she has OCD we have to be very firm and no nonsense with her, otherwise every headache is a brain tumour.
I am a bit like op- can't stand people pretending to be ill when they're not, but understand that she may just need a bit of company or wants to watch tv.
Maybe say, if you're no better tomorrow you really must spend the day in bed where you'll get more rest.

Wow. She's 14, but she's still a child FGS! Sorry to be harsh, but I think you need to suck it up and give her some sympathy for a few days. Buy her some ice cream and lozenges and give her a hug if she needs it. I'm mid-20s and live on my own and I get more sympathy from my mum when I'm ill!

In what ways is she being annoying, other than lying on the sofa?

There is not enough evidence re her annoyingness.

My DH has no sympathy whatsoever for anyone who's ill, not out of any malice, but because he wasn't given any when he was little.

He thinks just because he can't feel it then it's not that bad, and because he doesn't really get ill people who do must be being OTT out of weakness.

I agree that if she is being ill then YABU for brushing how she feels off.

If she's not ill and exaggerating it then there must be a reason for this and the only one I can think of is that she's asking for attention and you refuse to give it to her.

Just from personal experience OP, if someone's asking for attention (and I hate it when people say 'attention seeking' as if it's a bad thing) and don't find it, they'll just have to ask for it louder and in a more dramatic way.

14 is a fuck of a difficult age.

Sore throats are sore!!!

Plenty of nice cool drinks, blanky to cuddle up with. Nice bowl of ice cream.

They're only little once (I know shes 14, but shes still a baby, really).

So YABU.