need a rant

[Ipom]

OK, I love my mate and will do anything for her.

This morning we arranged to take the kids to the park.

I said I will meet her at her house as I need to visit the post office first. Before we even got to the gate she came out and said we all had to very, very quiet because the baby had just got to sleep. Fair enough but I know my son wont be quiet and her dog will be barking because my kids play with him in the garden so I left and said I will meet her at the park.

She arrives at the park about an hour later and her eldest (a very opinionated 9) would not stop moaning about my son and how I should deal with him as a parent.

I like her son but think he is treated way too much as an adult, so I said to my mate I will see her later as I have things to do. If I stayed at the park I would have let her son know what I thought of his paretning ideas and that he should mind his own business. Instead, I kept my mouth shut and left becasue my son was not doing as he was told and I did say, that if he was naughty we would leave.

Now, I am getting nasty texts from said mate saying I am immature because that is twice in one day I have walked out on her.

Despite explaining about the reasons why I left (leaving out that I wanted to give her son a good telling off), things are frosty between us.

I cant decide if I was wrong in this. Did I over react and could have done this better?

She did though. When she sat down at the park I told her that if he didnt behave we would be leaving. She said it was fine as she knows I'm trying to sort out my sons behaviour.

She is sensitive at the best of times but having just had a baby she is hyper, hyper sensitive, so I thought it would be best to leave rather than say something she's going to get upset by.

Mind you, thinking about it, she probably didnt hear me as she was busy getting the baby's milk from under the pram and sorting out his cover

Maybe she picked up on your annoyance with her DS? I know sometimes I think I've hidden an emotion brilliantly and been proven wrong...

I wouldn't worry YANBU to leave to sort out your DS's behaviour and to avoid an argument.

In the grand scheme of your friendship I think this won't even be a blip! The closer you are to someone the more likely there is to be little spats like this!

hmmmm, she did think that it was because of her son I left but I didnt want to cause an argument, plus my son was being naughty.

Have explained the reasons yet again on skype and will leave it for now.

She'll talk when she is ready, I cant do anything else.