To be angry at my DH for changing his mind

[teameric]

I had a MC very recently (found out last monday) This would have been my third baby (and Dh's second).
We had been in 2 minds wether to go for another one but after much discussion about the pros and cons decided to go for it. I got pg straight away, we were very happy.
Obviously we were upset about the MC but it was very early days (I was only about 5 weeks).
I had got used to the idea of having another baby and was very excited about it (we both were) but now that has been taken away from me, my DH however has decided he doesn't want to try again. I feel so angry about it all

I'm so sorry for your loss

It's too soon to talk about the future though - you are both raw. Cut each other some slack, support each other and revisit the topic in a few months.

Good luck.

So sorry for your loss, I'm sure your DH just needs time to come to terms with it.

YANBU - whilst i understand your anger towards him, you have to bear in mind that everyone (male & female) responds different to bereavement and/or pregnancy.

it might be hard but be patient. what for the right time to speak to him. i.e. when you're not as angry.

good luck and best wishes.

sorry *wait - not what! x

Hi teameric,
Very sorry for your loss. I agree with the others, I'd give it a while. If something goes wrong with/for me, my DH's first reaction is no, not again. He may just be upset not just for him but at seeing you.

Give it time.

I'm really sorry, I understand your pain. I think it's quite a male response to say 'no'. Probably a bit head in the sand. Talk to him again in a few weeks and get some counselling or some avenue for your anger and hurt? x

Don't be angry at him, he has gone though this too. Is it possible that having seen the pain and upset of the MC has made him worry that it might happen again, and so decide that it's better not to try than to get pregnant and miscarry?

My DH did this, he just did not want to see me go through it again. It also reminded him of the pain of pregnancy and child birth and he did not want to see me in pain again. He thought we were lucky to have what we have and why risk it. It is early days yet and the whole thing has prob shaken him more than he is showing, give him time and keep talking.

Thankyou everyone for your replies, I know I am probably being very impatient, and I know what you are saying about him having to get his head around the MC, he was very worried and upset for me rather than thinking about how he felt about it (I think cos it was such early days he hadn't thought of it as a baby IYSWIM) I feel like a bitch for feeling angry.