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To find some 'parenting experts' unasseptable?

33 replies

Dinkytinky · 13/08/2010 21:17

Whhhhhere do they find these people??
and a chart with stickers on does not an expert make imo!
(not much on tv tonight) Grin

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loopyloops · 13/08/2010 21:18

love it!

mumtoabeautifulbabyboy · 13/08/2010 21:47

YANBU to find some parenting experts unacceptable.

cornsilk1010 · 13/08/2010 21:47

are you watching superfanny?

MrsIndianaJones2 · 13/08/2010 23:38

UNASSEPTABLE - ahahaahahaha that is one of our family's automatic giggle phrases. The woman's a twunt. Some good ideas, but a twunt.

LucyLouLou · 14/08/2010 00:02

I fucking knew this was about Supernanny Grin. I agree, some good ideas, but her verbal grasp of the English language is appauling.

scottishmummy · 14/08/2010 00:10

they are only so called experts cause the sheep follow em.baaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa

Sinkingfeeling · 14/08/2010 00:18

Not just parenting experts. The Fairy Jobmother described a man who spent a lot of time alone in his room, playing computer games and isolated from the rest of his family as 'cellular' the other day. Wink

Heracles · 14/08/2010 01:00

"Parentinn", surely...?

BrightLightBrightLight · 14/08/2010 01:02

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Dinkytinky · 14/08/2010 01:03

Heehee ohh yes! I'm sure they're all nice ladies but holy crap! Whatever happened to good old 'right that's it I'm phoning father christmas' that's my expert technique!

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OutOutLetItAllOut · 14/08/2010 08:31

not at all.
she really gets on my baps.
i find it really annoying that she tears into parents, yes they may be doing wrong, but she isnt a parent, she doesnt live 24/7 with the families, she makes decisions and rules over them from a snap shot.
she is a twunt.

AlgebraRocksMySocks · 14/08/2010 08:45

PMSL :o

'fraid I'm with BrightLightx2 on this one though!

Goblinchild · 14/08/2010 08:51

I think disagreeing with some parental experts is definitive proof of higher brain function.

Chil1234 · 14/08/2010 08:52

I love the Supernanny show... And the operative word is 'show' because - and this may surprise some - it's TV entertainment, not an OU degree course in childcare. Of course it's very silly because it's all put on for the cameras. The psychotic children, the brain-dead adults, those glasses LOL! Train smash telly designed so we can watch it as a gruesome spectator sport and think 'aren't we good parents by comparison?'. What's not to like?.

Goblinchild · 14/08/2010 08:58

I get that sort of entertainment in my job Chil1234 Grin
So for fun I watch other stuff.

StealthPolarBear · 14/08/2010 08:58

pmsl at "that's it I'm phoning Father Christmas" :o

I love the faces she pulls when she's observing them - she's been doing the job for so long you'd think nothing would shock her but she manages to be horrified every episode!

proudnsad · 14/08/2010 09:07

Ha ha ha at 'unasseptable'!

Also, and I know I am on dangerous ground here, I think an expert who doesn't have children is not expert at 'being a parent'. Even if you spend all day every day with children, it's not the same as having your own.

DISCLAIMER: I do NOT mean pepes without kids can't have very valid and useful and brilliant opinions child rearing (sounds like a farming term)!! I just mean it's different because your emotions get in the way when you are trying to disclipline etc.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 14/08/2010 09:18

I am not keen on the show, as I feel it tends towards "breaking in" children. However when watching it, although I dislike it Blush I gained the best tip I have ever had with DD.

She has SN so cannot speak, but can only whine and grump if unhappy about something.

There was a boy on who whinged a lot and every time he did his parents said "shut up, stop whinging, you are being naughty etc etc"

Supernanny pointed out that noone ever listened to the boy when he was unhappy, only when happy.

This was a revelation to me as we had been saying the same to DD.."stop girning" etc...so now we stop and listen to her if she sounds upset..I can't imagine what it must be like to only be told off if you are ever dissatisfied, felt awful when I realised.

seaturtle · 14/08/2010 09:20

Agree with you proudnsad. Have a childless lady in my church who keeps giving me advice and commenting at my parenting. Watched me feed DS a pot of Plum Baby and kept saying, "I don't think he's enjoying that." He was! And, "When I have kids I'll home cook and puree ALL their meals." She also keeps trying to push a popular Christian parenting manual at me. One that I won't read as it has a chapter on how and when to administer corporal punishment, and keeps badgering me if I've changed my mind about smacking DS yet.

OutOutLetItAllOut · 14/08/2010 09:22

tell her it hasnt changed your mind on smacking your child, but that you think it wil work really well on stupid women who poke their nose in your business.

Marjoriew · 14/08/2010 09:22

She knows 'nuthink':)

otchayaniye · 14/08/2010 09:31

She's not a parenting expert, she's a nanny. That said, I think she comes across as a fairly reasonable person who likes children and I don't have a problem with her, even though my parenting style is diametrically opposed to her advice, and even though she offers inaccurate advice, such as breastfeeding a toddler has 'no health benefits'.

But I do take issue with the programme. My husband works in TV and we have a friend who has worked on these type of programmes (Channel 4 is awash with these edutainment/makeover reality shoes and they do not ever comply in any way shape or form with producer guidelines set down by a reputable organisation, such as the BBC)

Typically, they will come in to the house, advise the parents to withhold toys, keep them up late, delay their routine, or upset it -- all in order to capture as much 'bad behaviour' as possible. They will also antagonise the parents (even encouraging them to have a drink, can't say that's happened on this particular show, I don;t know) and get them to 'break down' and cry on screen. Cue a big shoulder to cry on from presenter.

All cleverly edited to show progression from nightmare to solution in two easy weeks. It's nothing to do with anything, least of all parenting.

Thing is, if someone wants to go under the knife, have their teeth fixed and hair done and cry a bit -- fair enough, they're adults.

But allowing your challenging child to be filmed for posterity at their worst (and all children can behave badly if goaded) for others' entertainment. Well, it's not abuse, but it's fucking wrong on many levels.

proudnsad · 14/08/2010 09:34

Did you know SuperFanny's only 5'2? She looks ginormous (as she might say) on telly.

Seaturtle - yes I know the type! I remember saying I'd never let my dc watch telly. HA HA HA HA HA.

Fanjo I have also found some tips/situations useful to watch though, I agree.

sanielle · 14/08/2010 09:37

IN super nanny's defence the parents ASK her to come, because they can't handle things themselves. And the children always seem to be better off at the end than when they started.

otchayaniye · 14/08/2010 10:17

"IN super nanny's defence the parents ASK her to come, because they can't handle things themselves. And the children always seem to be better off at the end than when they started."

I can't speak for that programme, but that's not actually how the recruitment for these shows always works. Often it's friends of friends.

More to the point, the children don't ask for her to come. That contravenes any right thinking producer guidelines. You have to treat any filming of children extremely carefully and fairly. This show just throws that out the window.

Ask yourself at age 18 how you'd feel if you saw a YouTube clip of yourself on TV throwing dinner at the wall and all the laughing comments. Not nice.

And the children seem better off because they've edited it that way. I could film my child all day and go away and in Avid edit something that would easily look as if terrible behaviour had been cured.

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