to ask PILs to camp outside their house so we can stay in it?

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This is more of a WWYD than AIBU but here goes:

PILs have organised a family party for the bank holiday weekend. DH & I plus our DCs (3y and 9m), SIL, BIL their DD (3m) and BIL's mum as she is visiting from NZ, GMIL who lives very near PILs and GPILs who live miles from anywhere.

MIL asked me and DH if we could pick up the GPILs and bring them. We're happy to do so but it is a 4 hour round trip from our house and then an extra 1.5 hours down to MIL and FIL. We've asked if we can stay on Saturday night at PILS to avoid having to do another 1.5 hours drive later that night. DH and I can both drive but DH is disabled so may not be physically able to share the driving. We're also due to be down near them the next day so we'd have to repeat the journey on the Sunday.

MIL and FIL are fine with us staying, but there isn't room in the house with everyone else so they've said they'd sleep in the caravan. Are we completely UR to take them up on this offer? They're in good health and early 60s if that makes a difference.

No, they've offered so you don't even have to ask.

you would be unreasonbale to "ask them" but they offered, so no of course its not unreasonable to take them up on the offer.

any reason why it has to be them staying in the caravan?

if they have offered then you are not making them do anything so I think it's fine.

unless you would feel better about using the caravan yourdelf or would that be too difficult for your DH?

Sounds like a very reasonable offer from them. You've kindly offered to pick up GPs, they've offered to stay in their caravan so there is space for you all to stay instead of driving home. It's summer (assume you are in the UK), warm and they are healthy. Everyone wins. YANBU.

The caravan might be more exciting for your children than sleeping in the house! Just a thought. Mine would probably have been very envious of their gps sleeping in the caravan while they were just in a boring old house.

THanks. DH spoke to them last night when they said that they would do so if we needed them to (i.e. just ask!) and DH and I both thought it would be UR to do so but would make our lives much much easier.

It really does have to be them in the caravan as it is teeny (just 2 berth) so not room for all of us and DH can get in quite a bad state if he's very uncomfortable, also DS and DNeice both wake a lot at night so would seriously disturb the neighbours. GPILs are both in their 90s and BIL's mum is too much of a guest...

Thanks though. I'll speak to DH and say yes please!

wont be much space in the caravan for for of you, so think it makes sense them doiung it. YANBU

Definitely say yes please :)

FIL often does this when we all (DH, me, DS, SIL&BIL and the DNs) go and stay, and that way everyone gets a good night's sleep.

My parents prefer to do this when we come to stay (they have a campervan on the driveway) so that they don't hear any child noise in the night, and we don't have to hear them making tea at 5 am.

Can still hear Dad snoring from there, mind you...

Thanks again. We'll definitely ask (and enjoy the dinner we'll be able to stay for).

If it works out it could actually be a pretty useful thing to see more of PILs although it probably would be a tad unreasonable to expect them to stay in the caravan over Christmas!

I think its fairly common - my friend and her DH and DC stay in the house at her parents and they stay in the Caravan. She thinks they love it more than the house and don't feel her and DH would appreciate the caravan enough!

Since they have a caravan its fair to assume that they like it and are happy sleeping in it.

If you turned up with a caravan and forced them in there by gun point that would be unreasonable.