Am I or aren't I? Please tell me!

[TotorosOcarina]

DH and I have been having a clear out. Trying to get rid of alot of junk and generally sorting the house out.

I saved my money and bought gloss, brushes, wallpaper etc to do the hall, stairs and Landing.

At the weekend I told DH I was upset as I wanted him to get started on the decorating after we sorted the junk out as it would get left forever if we didn't!

So Monday he say (that HE says) "We will sort everything out by Friday, ready for me to start decorating at the weekend"

Now Today his Dad rings and asks him to go to his house on Saturday to 'help him move some stuff' and DH agrees

I'm pissed off because he knows we were supposed to start decorating Saturday afternoon as we have booked cinema tickets for the kids in the morning.

DH is now saying he will go to his dads sunday and start ours Monday!

I'm pissed off because everything I want doing is always thrown to the back of the que when someone else comes along.

And also because DH always gets on with stuff himself, never asks anyone else to spend a weekend helping him but everyone is constantly asking him to help them out!! grrrr.

AIBU?

YANBU, but don't have a cow. Just tell him that you are starting on Saturday, and if he goes to his dad's then he'll have to take the kids with him, as you'll be putting up wallpaper.

You want something done? Ask a man.

You want something done properly - do it yourself.

YANBU

the only answer is to get up early on saturday and start doing it yourself. he won't be able to stop himself taking over helping.

lol deemented, gloss I can do, but wallpaper - no way!!

and besides I couldn't even gloss with him not here as I have 3 under 6 it would be impossible!

Agree with BoF. Once you have started it he'll get involved.

YANBU to be angry and frustrated but take a deep breath and wait until Monday, tell him if he doesn't start on monday then you are going to seriously lose it. By monday if he doesn't start then you can vent the full force of your fury. If he does start it on Monday then you've only had to wait an extra 2 days and all is good.

YANBU to be angry and frustrated but take a deep breath and wait until Monday, tell him if he doesn't start on monday then you are going to seriously lose it. By monday if he doesn't start then you can vent the full force of your fury. If he does start it on Monday then you've only had to wait an extra 2 days and all is good.

YANBU

My DH is the same with decorating - always puts it off. Lets me start hours before him, moans the whole time and then stops hours before I stop. That was in the good days before he simply refused.

The last big job I did was painting the hall/2 sets of stairs and 2 landings and the newly plastered loft conversion 18 months ago. Over Christmas, with a streaming cold and DH refusing to help but periodically popping up to moan at me because he had to look after DS all day. umm.

We have just had work done again and I told I was also refusing to paint now and he can pay for a decorator. He seemed a little surprised

If my mum were reading this she'd be 100% behind you. She has literally waited decades for my dad to do things in their house but he will always drop everything and come and help me and sis immediately. we are however trying to return the favour now and help them out as they are getting on a bit. In general, YANBU and men are rubbish