to wish my Dad was a little bit happy for me?

[purpleflower123]

I told him today that DP and I are getting married in 6 months. His first reaction was why on earth would we want to do it in February when the weathers bad! When I told him that it would only be parents and siblings there he said 'if thats what you want' but again his tone of voice was off.

DP and I have had a really rough year, all along my Dad has been saying how much he hopes we can sort it all out. Now we have and are looking to the future he seems to really not care :(

We did book a wedding 3 years ago and had to cancel it. One of the main reasons being that my Dad had said he would pay for the church and told us 3 months before he couldn't afford it, we couldn't find an extra £500 in time. This time we are not asking for any help at all which is why it's going to be so small.

AIBU to at think he could've at least said congratulations rather than just being negative?

Maybe he still feels guilty about you having to cancel the last one because he didnt have the money

i didnt realise the church cost so much money (but i have never planned a wedding) you must have lost a lot if you cancelled as 3 months before the weeding everthing must have been booked and deposits paid

YANBU - Congratulations. An intimate, family winter wedding will be lovely. You could have a light dusting of snow - how pretty

Perhaps he's just a bit wary because you've had a rough time, and he's a bit worried that things won't stay great but doesn't want to say so.

Luckily last time we hadn't paid any deposits yet, we were just getting to the point where we needed to. We didn't tell him that was the reason we had to cancel, we told him DP's passport was taking too long to process at the embassy and he needed it (semi true, it did take longer than it should've but was back in time)

He also manages to turn up when the house is a dump and make little comments about that too. 80% of the time it is spotless but he always drops in when it's that 20%

I don't know if all the churches cost that much, I only got the info from 1 church thats local to dad. My mums ashes are there, 2 of my brothers got married there and my son was christened there. This time we are gong for the registry office, £100 instead of £500!

He maybe a bit wary but it was him saying how much he has grown to like DP over the years and what a great person he is and how much he hopes we can work it out. The last 6 months have been great and we are happier than we have been in years :)

Churches are all much of a muchness for cost - the rates are set by the Church of England and not the church themselves IYSWIM.

The fact that you two are happy is the main thing.

And next time your Dad complains about the state of your house, give him the hoover or the polish, he might shut up!