To eat early with the kids because DH has a couple of mates coming over?

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I've asked him a couple of times about whether or not he and mates want food / what the plan is etc. They're from another country and so don't see each other very often.

I'm preggers and can't wait forever for food and I'm also a bit ropy in the evenings to say the least.

Anyway - he texts me to say they're coming over tomorrow night at about 7:30pm and then they're going to go to the pub for a couple of pints. I texted back asking if if he minded if I ate with the 2 toddlers (5:30pm ish).

No reply yet but I suddenly thought that maybe I'm being unreasonable and should have a pot of something that we all eat when they get back from the pub. We also have a house guest the next night and I'm struggling to think of anything to cook that I fancy!

YANBU, chances are your hubby will agree to a "pot of something" and then stay in pub, eat a kebab on way home and leave you starving!!

Eat with your tods, get an early night and (if you're feeling generous - as long as they haven't woken you and household up etc.) cook 'em a slap-up brekkie (they'll probably need it!)

Well they're not staying the night and I did ask if they were going to go to the pub. He said he thought not as he was sure I would like to see them too (they're his work mates) so I am a bit confused as to what my 'required involvement' is! If that makes sense.....

He doesn't like plans. I do if it means I'm required to do anything, like cook, be chatty for a whole evening (when all I want to do it veg out, doze and MN being the unsociable so and so that i am at the mo!) etc.

YANBU - if he's being vague sort out yourself and the children then you're not left hanging around hungry and not sure what's happening and when. They can get fish & chips whenever they're hungry - they're grown-ups, they can look after themselves.

YANBU to eat with the kids, but personally I would leave a "pot of something" for them in case they come in hungry. If they don't eat it it will save you cooking tomorrow when you have a house guest!

can't believe you are asking this. You are COMPLETELY reasonable, pregnant or otherwise!

Why can't your DH sort out the cooking himself? They are his mates after all.

Well, since they are from another country and he doesn't get to visit with them often, I'd want to make something nice for them to eat. Your "pot of something" sounds like a good idea, then if they do not eat it for any reason, you will have dinner ready for your guest the next night. But I'd eat with the children earlier.

YANBU. It's all very well for him to 'not like plans' when what that seems to mean is he does what he likes when he likes, and expects you to run around after him catering to his every need and fitting in with whatever he decides. Unless you're a 1950's housewife you don't have to put up with that, and you certainly don't have to be cooking for and entertaining his friends/colleagues, especially when you're pg and have 2 dc to look after already! It was nice of you to offer, but if he can't be polite and respectful enough to tell you what's going on, then you have every right to make your own plans and let him take care of his.

Don't ask his permission, tell him you'll be eating tea early with the dcs (if that's what you want to do), he can sort out the rest.

Why would you ask permission to eat your dinner?
Is that not the usual time you have dinner at anyway, let him sort himself out.