To think that my ds's christening is not an excuse for a shameless style piss up!

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My ds's christening is on Sunday. We're having the usual church ceremony and afterwards have booked a room in a puc/restaurant with a buffet, the usual thing. The annoying thing is that a lot of dh's friends who are invited to the christening (female aswell as male) keep referring to it as a 'piss up' and think that we are going to be going out drinking afterwards. Now, to me, this is my son's special day and I am not going to be getting really drunk or leaving him with my mum (who I haven't seen for months and can't wait to spend time with) while I go out on the town! We are spending a week at my parents and have arranged another night to go out with friends etc when we can really have a few drinks and enjoy ourselves, and yet I know that dh's mates are going to be nagging at him to go out after the christening which will make me feel like a boring old fart for not wanting to. He has said, for the record, that he isn't going out as we've got the other night arranged (well trained!)But aibu to be really annoyed that my sons christening is being used in this way?

YANBU. DH's friends sound immature.People are really losing sight of what a christening means these days.

My DH's uncle thought it would be funny to make MIL's phone ring in the middle of the vows around the font. The whole service stopped until the phone had stopped ringing. She's not the brightest and took ages to realise it was her.

I was fuming afterwards. Christenings should be afforded a certain amount of respect. YA definitely NBU!

YANBU

I would be upset to the point that i'd tell them not to bother coming. YANBU.

Thanks, I'm really quite upset about it, I feel that dh's friends may aswell not come for the church ceremony as all they think the day is about is getting pissed :-( really going to have to talk to dh about it. They are a nice bunch and I usually get on well with them but none of them have kids, and their the type that are out every weekend.

YABU for calling your husband "well trained". And what does it matter what other people want to do, he has said he won't go out, you have said you don't want him to go out, you're complaining that his friends will ask him to go out? Why?
And why book it in a pub anyway if you're looking for a quiet and sedate religious day?

It's not a pub as such more of a restaurant with a bar. And we booked it as it does good food, is family friendly and has got a function room at the back. The 'well trained' comment was a joke, dh and I say it all the time to each other!

Bonnie- it doesn't have to be quiet and sedate, just don't see it as being a big old piss up iyswim

I'm not looking forward to niece's christening as BIL and his mates make Shameless look like The Waltons

Bleh, it sounds like they want to go drinking AFTER the church n aftershow nonsense, so where's the harm? Are they going to force you and DH to go by sticking a gun in your faces?

YANBU, if they want to go out afterwards let them. You and your dh enjoy your sons day. To be honest I wouldn;t even invite friends to a Chritaning anyway unless they were very, very close friends, it is a family occasion.