long back story, split form nasty abusive XH 4 years ago, but ongoing problems and hassle from him and his family, culminating in his parents taking me to small claims court for money they had jointly given to me and XH :( I am still paying off his debts and supporting DD's, he pays no child support at all!
DD1 is nearly 9, and has had a good relationship with his parents, which I have facilitated until the court thing, and a few episodes of treating me like shit, and talking to DD1 about me :(
I don't prevent the relationship but I dont facilitate it either. XH has since gone back to working away and is often gone months at a time :) His parents live 5 mins away but as they wont talk to me, they dont see the DD's when he is away.
XH has left a message on the house answer phone and text me tonight, "ordering" me to get DD1 to phone his father tomorrow and wish him happy birthday. Not only do I not want to be ordered to do as he says, I really dont give a shit about them!
DD1 has also been told to phone his parents and arrange to go and see them, she is 8 FFS, if they want to see her and DD2 (who is 2 and a half), then they can bloody phone me and speak civilly to me, not arrange it through an 8yr old! FWIW they wont come and get them but will expect me to drop them off and collect them, but I am not allowed to approach the house, I have to hoot and wait for them, last time I politely rung the doorbell to collect my children, she slammed the door in my face 