Do you still give a gift if you dont attend a wedding?

[cherrybloosombloom]

Invited to a wedding, friend I only see once or twice a year turned down wedding invite as to far to travel with young children .also the expense,their married now I feel guilty aibu?.

No. just send her a card

Wouldn't hurt to send them a little something to mark the occasion of their wedding - did you send a card?

i would send a card and a small gift... but no YANBU she prob wouldnt expect anything from people who don't go

I think it is the "done thing" to send a present even if you are unable to attend. The thinking being that this person is/feels close enough to you to invite you to this celebration of such a special occasion.

If you really can't afford it then send a very special and meaningful card. :)

No the card is still here?.

I've once sent a present (when I couldn't get to my cousin's wedding), but many times have not and never felt strange/guilty about it.

But, Cherryblossmloom, if you're feeling guilty you could always send a card and some vouchers to their home as a "Mr & Mrs" moving in pressie.

I would always send a present if invited to a wedding wether I could attend or not. I have also given a present to people when I have not been invited.

I remember receiving many gifts when I got married from people who were not invited or did not attend the wedding.

I usually send a gift if I am unable to attend.

I am sure b&g's don't expect this though.

When we married, we got a couple of gifts from people who couldn't attend but none from others and we certainly didn't even think of it again. Infact it has only come to mind because of this thread.

I wouldn't.

I'm not going to a wedding of a 'friend' that I see once a year if that. I'm sending a card, certainly not getting a present. Why would you when you aren't going?

I send flowers (but ones in a vase so they don't have to faff about on looking for one whilst simultaneously(sp) putting on a wedding frock / taking their rollers out.

You see I give a present because they are getting married. Not because they are having a wedding. The same way I give a birthday present even though there is not always a birthday party.