to expect privacy with my property??

[kittya]

Recently Ive noticed the way people treat my property has changed. For instance, I went out with some younger colleagues when one asked me if I had any perfume in my bag and I got it out and gave her it. Later on that night I could smell my perfume strongly and about four of them were wearing it!! gone in to my bag and sprayed it!! Of course I would have lent them it but I am funny about my bag. The next instance, only yesterday I was talking about a website and my phone was on the side the person I was talking to just picked up my phone and started googling the website!! Am I just been touchy? I have nothing to hide but, still. I was never allowed to go into my mothers purse when I was little and still wouldnt dream of it now so, maybe it stems from that.

no, YANBU - I would expect to be asked if someone wanted some perfume, and also I would never use someone's phone without asking first, even a quick "do you mind?" is better than nothing.

All sounds very immature tbh. Maybe you need to keep your bag closer to you , before it is your purse disappearing .

I wouldnt expect them to nick things, they are my friends and colleagues, I just think times have changed. For instance if someone says, have you got any lipstick? and you say, its in my bag dont you expect them to pass you your bag so you can get it for them and not just open your bag and get it? I think Im just oldfashioned but I do it to my little nieces now, I tell them to pass me my bag, not go in it and help themselves!!

but if they cna help themselves so could others.

No, I'd be furious about the perfume thing. Not the perfume itself (depending on whether it was hideously expensive and/or nearly run out) - it's the assumption they can go into your bag & help themselves whenever they like! And I think the phone user should have said "Mind if I use your phone?"

My nieces & nephews would ask - ages 15-23.
I would pick up a close friend's phone, I think, but wouldn't rummage in their bag without asking.
You should perhaps be a bit more cautious; lots of the places I worked in boasted at least one kleptomaniac (or thief, but it's kinder to assume they had a disorder.)

I don't like people helping themselves to my stuff without asking. But then, I also tell them so, rather than fuming quietly.
If it's the norm for them, you have to make it clear that it's not OK.

Honestly, in a pub garden the other night my phone was on the table it bleeped, I ignored, my friend picked it up and said theres a message from so and so and, handed it to me!! I wouldnt do that, I wouldnt touch anyones stuff unless they asked me too.

It was my favourite perfume and now they are half of them have bought it, I dont know what annoys me more!! somethings you like to keep to yourself, even your smells!!

YANBU, I would freak. Handbags are private.

They are very private arent they? Like I said, I dont mind people borrowing or using anything but, when I say yes, I dont expect them to actually go into my bag and get it. I cant stand it when dp's do it either, even if its on my shoulder and they are just putting the car keys into it, it makes me feel funny!!

YANBU, there's no way I would go through someone else's handbag, and would be shocked if someone did that to me, especially if they were just a work colleague and not a close friend or partner.

I dont think I have been in my mother's handbag since I was four!!

YANBU - DH doesnt go rummaging through my handbag without asking - he is too afraid that something might be living in there and bite him! he he

in fact the only people that do is DS (11 months) and my sister and she is cheeky and we are very close :)

It's bad manners. Ask them if they would rummage in your undies drawer in the same fashion. Just as private. And just as likely to have a pair of old pants and a few manky tampons floating around...

ah yes manky tampons . . . .i think that is what scares DH the most

why do they always find their way out of their little wrappers?!!

They are like very cylindrical little mices - always wriggling around. You gotta keep an eye on the buggers.