to not 'be in the mood' after this comment?

[NinjaChipmunk]

ok so last night dp and i were in bed about to start kissing etc when he leans over to me and says 'is your breath smelly tonight? breathe at me so i can see if you need to brush your teeth again'
when i said wtf kind of thing is that to say he spent the next 5 minutes telling me i was being too sensitive and that he couldn't understand why i was in a mood! now if i had kissed him (which at this point i hadn't) and he had said, whoa there love, i think you whiff a bit i wouldn't have minded particularly but to ask to smell my breath just in case? is that not just a bit weird? unless he stank i would never do this to him as i think it is really rude. i brush twice daily and it has never been an issue in the past plus we had not eaten smelly food for dinner. he was massively tactless so was ibu to just roll over and go to sleep? he seems to not understand why this wasn't a good precursor to sex!

YANBU!

Is that his idea of foreplay? breathe in my face love...

YAsoNBU!

No, YANBU. That would put me off too. That being said, my DH and I can often tell when the other is ill through our breath and will tell each other then, but never to check if one of us has brushed our teeth.

YANBU, I would thwack DP (figuratively) if he said this.

Fine to ask you to brush if your breath DID smell but to want to check. What next, an armpit check!?

Rude.

Not exactly sexy, is it? I think men don't really get that the wrong thing said at the wrong time can REALLY ruin the mood!

At least hes honest!

Take your false teeth out next time, for an added twist to loveplay.

am so glad its not just me thinking he ibu! he really didn't get how off putting his comment was.

aah, the romance of the long term relationship

yanbu, it was not a comment likely to have you leap on him and tear his pants off with your teeth.

Although - and don't shoot me - you need to ask him if you have a whiffy breath problem. Get him to be honest. Because that comment - badly timed as it was came from somewhere.

That would be more than enough to put me off! DP has the most sensitive nose in the world ever (honestly, its incredible) but has never commented on my breath. Even if you do have a problem with halitosis that's hardly a good time to bring it up is it?!

Bad breath can kill passion stone dead in an instant- he was up for it- and obviously wanted you but didn't want a nasty surprise that would stop the fun. You may call me unreasonable, but I've been on the other side of the fence and its a bloody minefield of tact and hints. So on one hand YABU.

BUT- there are ways of saying things in a nicer way and that wasn't it! so YANBU.

i know hecate but when you're two inches from someones face surely most peoples breath smells just a little bit? for what its worth i know i don't probably drink enough water during the day which can have an effect, i have been trying to sort this out though. i have been thinking maybe i'll invest in some mouthwash but certainly won't let him off with comments like this. its not the first time he's been completely tactless.
smelly breath or not i still think he was bu. he hid a pair of my slippers in the loft of a house we were moving out of once cos he didn't like them. he thought he had got away with it until i made him replace them. he also tells me when he doesn't like what i'm wearing (not often thankfully or he wouldn't still be around) but this usually makes me wear a bit more just to piss him off a bit. i think, after 13 years of living with him, he just doesn't get it when he says something offensive.

My DP has been known to comment on other... ahem... odours, and then to be surprised when I do not insist on giving him an extended blow-job. Retaliation ('well, yours tastes like battery acid, AKSHALLY, and you can't make it more daisy-like with a shower, so let's not be too smug, shall we') results in hilarity (him) and sulking (me). Bah.